8 days with no contact....

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Registered: 04-04-2006
8 days with no contact....
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Tue, 04-18-2006 - 3:18pm
and it's not getting any easier! He was the one who broke up with me (3 weeks ago) but I was the one who said we couldn't talk or be friends...so why does it still hurt so much??? I think about him all the time, I still cry everyday and I can't sleep! I don't know what to do! I've even been reading books and talking to a counsellor but I don't feel like I am making any progress and I am so sick of feeling so unhappy! before we got together I was single, confident and loving every second of it and now I'm a mess!
I guess when I told him I couldn't be friends or talk anymore I was hoping he would come back but he hasn't and there doesn't seem to be any hope that he will. I feel like I am in denial over this whole thing...and I just don't understand it at all...I don't want to crack and call him but it's really hard and it really hurts to just know that he isn't hurting as much as I am and that he is just okay with us not being together.
Hating this and wish it would get easier sooner rather than later!

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Registered: 04-18-2006
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 7:34pm

That which doesn't break us only makes us stronger...

You have the strength, so do I, but it does not mean it is easy. Tonight, I will probably run into my recent break-up. Not because I want to, but because I want to continue living my life as I always have. With my head held high and my honor intact...Later I may break down, but I will not let him see...Hopefully with each day, it will grow easier.

It sucks to realize that only time will ease the pain, but friends, venting, crying and GETTING OUT helps. It doesn't take it away, but it helps...hang in there and I will too. I am actually suppose to go on a ski trip this weekend. We shall see how far I get:)
Take care

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Registered: 06-28-2004
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 9:38am

I've managed to mend my broken heart from a failed marriage and pulled thru w/ a lot of help from friends and family plus I'm not real good at advice so I'll pass this quote on it definitely gave me a chuckle during the sad time.

"A broken heart is what makes life so wonderful five years later, when you see the guy in an elevator and he is fat and smoking a cigar and saying "long-time-no-see." If he hadn't broken your heart, you couldn't have that glorious feeling of relief!" Phillis Battelle

After the "grieving" period (which I think is important), you can remember this....

"YOU CAN CLUTCH THE PAST SO TIGHTLY TO YOUR CHEST THAT IT LEAVES YOUR ARMS TOO FULL TO EMBRACE THE PRESENT." JAN GLIDEWELL

Kerri

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