Addicted to love

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Addicted to love
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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 4:25pm

I've been rereading a lot of posts on this board and the one common theme is how hard it is to not contact the one in question...myself included. It occurred to me...is being in love like being addicted to drugs?

Now the song in my head will be "Addicted to Love"

Just a thought...

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:42pm

For me, personally, I've found that *some* men and relationships are addictive and really, really hard to let go off. Others, I can walk away from without a lot of regret or angst if I decide we're not a good fit. I'm not quite sure why some guys fit into the addictive category and others don't...I've been trying to figure that out recently with my counselor, actually.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-28-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 6:19pm
I too agree, I can date someone, really nice, chemistry, etc....and walk away without any angst, others, like my present 8 day ex :( ..forget it. In my opinion, its all in the way they treat us, it boils down to phone calls, not waiting for one, communication really. I bought this book called OBSESSIVE LOVE at the request of my therapist, and I am pretty sure that hits the nail on the head. You know how it is ladies, when you date someone new, they can be gorgeous, and polite and thoughtful, and we are all thinking, whats wrong with this man? Thats how it is for me, its almost like a turn off. I guess that is why I am at this site AGAIN in 2 1/2years, I dont get 100% of his 50%.
Weez