Advice for a friend.....
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| Wed, 06-21-2006 - 3:31pm |
Ok, so a lot of you know my situation, but I will do a little update first. As for my situation its going good. I'm just living my life being positive and knowing that if I never get back together with my ex it will be okay. I will find someone and I will be happy. My ex and I haven't talked in a week, which is fine, I don't want to force myself on him. He is working through things and needs his space. GREAT for him! :p !!
Ok, so now to the real reason why I started this discussion.
My best friend has been with her boyfriend 11 months and he told her last night that she was bugging him and that he thinks they should go on a break until next Friday.
He said she bugs him because she is always wanting to spend time with him. The thing with that is that she only tries to see him about 3 times a week. He never wants to spend any time with her.
He told her that they were getting too serious, but he is being really hypocritical on this one. He gave her a promise ring for her birthday in April and he gets really mad if she doesn't wear it. But yet, he doesn't want to get serious.
I told my friend that a week and a half break is not long enough for either one of them to truly change and make things better. It sounds to me like her boyfriend is just trying to get rid of her without really getting rid of her.
She told me that lately the sex has been really bad, he just gets in does his thing and is done. He doesn't even try to pleasure her anymore.
I don't have a lot of experience with relationships, so does anyone have any advice that I could give her. I've already told her to just give him his space like he requested and see what happens next friday and I told her that there is nothing she can do.
Please help.
~Amber~

hi amber
about your friend..i'm just wondering coz i know she's the only person could feel this..does the bf cheating on her thats why everything is falling apart on their relationship..i'm just curious!! esp "SEX PART"
well actually all men arent like that. there's also other reason thats why their pleasure having sex with their partner is cold. like you mention here she being so possesive to him about seeing each other. men are like that they dont want to be push for something...it doesnt really matter if their willing or not. most of them wants to do it on their own.
to be honest amber if a guy is really in to you no matter how busy they are..they will find a way to make time for you.
i'm assuming at this point this guy want's to know...what really his feeling with this girl. wait until friday..if he decided to end the relationship...well she need to respect that...actually she have you as her bestfriend to lean on RIGHT?
tell her how you did it...you mention here you dont have too many experience yet..
you been in your last relationship about 5yrs is that right correct me if i'm wrong..but look at you now..your doing soo great...
tell her i said good luck