Advice needed

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2006
Advice needed
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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 12:05pm
I have split up with my boyfriend of 7 months. I initiated the break up but later regreted it and asked if we could work through it. He said that we could if i wasn't going abroad for a year (compulsory placement) in September. In 5 weeks we were going to break up anyway because we are both going home from uni for summer and we live really far away.
I know he still cares about me and this is just as hard on him as it is for me. I don't know what to do about contact. Should i stay in touch and then there's a possibility we can get back together in 16 months? Should i wait a while and then make contact, hoping i still want to do so and maybe losing him in the meantime? Should i break contact altogether as then i will definately be over him when i next see him?
It's just such a hard situation because there was nothing wrong with our relationship that couldn't be worked out. I'm scared i won't care anymore when we return for final year and will have therefore lost my chance of being with him.
Any advice? Has anyone got back with their ex? Did they keep contact in the meantime?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: gnrfan
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 1:29pm
How did you leave it with him? Just that you are broken up? Have you told him you regret your decision?


Carrie

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Registered: 05-07-2006
In reply to: gnrfan
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 5:11pm
Yes i told him i made a mistake and he said he understood but because there's only 5 weeks before we leave he doesn't want to get back together. We left it as being friends which was 2 days ago but we haven't had any contact since. I don't think we'll meet up again before i leave because it was so hard for both of us to say goodbye last time.