advice...please

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Registered: 04-05-2006
advice...please
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 6:30pm
i am just a rollercoaster of emotions and i just want off. i wrote earlier this week about the situation i'm in so i won't go into detail. long story short my ex and i are taking a month of no communication to see where we stand at that point...to distance from our frustration. this is driving me insane...i don't feel like the strong, confident person i know i am. this is just devastating. i don't believe it had to come to this point but it's what he wants. i knew we had some things to figure out but nothing that major. his feelings are very valid to me but now that we aren't talking and i'm sitting here wondering my mind is just going crazy with what if's, what if this is it, what if he's found someone else, what if he doesn't miss me, etc. i'm not just saying this cause i'm blind but we really did have a great relationship. all on our plate was reasonable. if the going gets tough and one decides to just walk should i go agaisnt my heart and say screw it? i don't know if i can do that. my heart tells me not to give up (friends of his have said not to give up) but isn't that what he's doing? we have 2 weeks left of no communication but i want to call him to vent...i need some words of advice to help me not call him. anyone?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 7:09pm

You need to respect his request if you truly care about him.

He is not giving up *yet*...he's taking time to regroup. Now, it's possible he will say he doesn't want to continue...that's always a risk. But if you truly love him, you'll give him the space he feels he needs to make up his mind. Personally, I don't believe in 'breaks' but if he feels he needs this, don't you feel strongly enough about him and about the relationship to give it to him?

Call your friends to vent...he's not the one who can help you, and not respecting his request won't have positive consequences.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 8:13pm

HI KSCARLETT

I KNOW ITS HARD TO STOP COMMUNICATING TO THE PERSON THAT YOU GET USED TO TALK EVERYDAY RIGHT? BUT YOU HAVE TO RESPECT HIS DESICION. THINK ABOUT IT. YOU MADE IT IN 14DAYS....SO I'M PRETTY SURE YOU COULD MAKE IT FOR ANOTHER 2WEEKS. I MEAN ATLEAST LET HIM MISS YOU...COZ IF YOU KEEP ON CALLING HIM. HE WONT KNOW YOUR VALUE AND YOU MIGHT SEND HIM AWAY MORE. DONT THINK NEGATIVE. LIKE YOU MENTION YOUR HEART SAY DONT LET GO. FOR MY OWN OPINION THE ONLY PERSON KNOW IF YOUR BF LOVES YOU IS "YOURSELF"...THIS IS THE REASON WHY YOUR HEART SAY TO BE PATIENCE....DONT MAKE THINGS COMPLICATED FOR YOU....

GOOD LUCK