After 4 years together its over

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Registered: 01-31-2006
After 4 years together its over
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 1:49am
I am so miserable I just have to get my thoughts out and maybe it will help to get your support. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years last night and I am feeling terrible. I still love him very much and I miss him. He is my best friend and I just don't know what my life will be without him. I feel like crying all of the time. He is my first love, and we spent 4 wonderful years together. I had to end it though because we were just not right for each other, and I was spending too much time evaluating our relationship instead of enjoying being with him. I feel so awful about hurting him. I also am feeling really lonely, depressed, and all around sorry for myself. I just don't know what to do with myself. I just want to feel better. He is such a huge part of my life that now I feel like I don't have one anymore. I was alright at work but this evening at home I cried pretty much the whole time. Any advice or support would be very welcome.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 1:01pm

Your feelings are normal. It takes time to get through all the emotions - grief, guilty, depression....

Journal writing can help, short-term counseling, making a list of things you enjoy and start doing them, take time to cry...processing grief is just that - a process. Your feelings won't go away over night.

My best to you on your healing path.


Carrie