After the break up how long do you...

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Registered: 11-07-2007
After the break up how long do you...
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Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:56pm

GRIEVE?


I was in a physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive relationship for 6 months which ended 2/16/08. I am sad and relieved it is done but now how long do I grieve? I know I need to focus on myself and anything that makes me happy...


Can anyone tell me from their own experience how long it is normal/average to grieve?


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:12pm

Grief is different for every person. It depends on a lot of factors - how long you were together, how much you embrace your feelings and/or how you repress them.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:18pm

Hi Carrie,


Thank you... I am willing. Although it has only been a few days I feel like I can move on and more importantly WANT TO move on...


Is it bad that I have not cried ONCE? I am a very emotional person and I think that I might somewhat be repressing my feelings. I have never been one to write a journal but I think posting here will surely help with my grieving/healing process...


Again thank you!






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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:34pm
No it's not bad that you haven't cried. There could be a delay. It could still come upon you.




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Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:49pm

I'm so glad to hear it's finally over!!!

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Mon, 02-18-2008 - 4:40pm

Hi Sheri,


Thank you for the post... This was the first time I was in a relationship that was abusive. Like I previously stated... for now I am not feeling anything too deeply. I have my moments of sadness when I start to remember the good times... I am not sure if I am dealing with the break up appropriately but all I know is that I am feeling GOOD for the first time in MONTHS!