Ahh.. committmentphobes...

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Ahh.. committmentphobes...
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Sun, 05-14-2006 - 11:38pm

So my ex committmentphobe dumped me about a week and a half ago. It was completely out of the blue, in fact, the weekend before he gave me a Tiffanys bracelet. I've been devasted ever since, and just don't really understand why. He says his heart is not the relationship anymore and doesn't see me as someone he can spend the rest of his life. We only dated for 8 months; and he is 30 yrs old and his longest relationship has been 8 months.. hello committmentphobe! I truly think he doesn't know what love is, or has some screwed thinking onto what love is. He believes love is about being infatuted someone all the time. I don't see it like that.

Anyway, I saw him on Thursday night just for coffee, and he's telling me he misses me, that i'm a wonderful person, and that he really cares for me. He also tells me he really wants to be friends and that he feels I'm his best friend, but that it's my decision on the friends issue. I told him I don't know... I do want to be friends with him but it would be hard. I think he's a great person, and want him in my life but it will just be different. What does everyone feel about the friends issue? Also, do committphobes ever see the light on how they're acting and change? I have brought up about seeing a therpist to him, but he doesn't think that's the solution. It's so frustrating.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 7:15am

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