Ahhh

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Registered: 09-14-2004
Ahhh
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 6:08pm
Ugh...help?! The ex sent me a text message today and I'm having a weak moment right now...I really want to respond :( All it said was "shouts from Gary!" I don't know why he still contacts me...
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kcl19310
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 12:13am
Maybe you should tell him to stop. It's only hurting and tempting you. It shows he has no respect for you. Please consider telling him to stop or block his messages.
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In reply to: kcl19310
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 1:11am
Maybe you should go ahead and talk to him.

Of course, I think it will be a huge mistake, but obviously, it's going to take a lot to get him out of your system once and for all, and maybe the only way that can happen is by allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable to the pain you're sure to experience by renewing contact with him.

That will give him the chance to show you even more of his true colors and to reaffirm, as we discussed last week, that he's no good for you. Maybe knowing with your head that he's no good for you isn't good enough. Perhaps you need to experience the pain of all that is "currently unknown" to you with your heart, and THEN you will know for sure.

So go ahead and give in to the urge to respond so you can finally learn once and for all that you need to leave him alone and that you're truly better off without him. I believe more pain lies ahead for you in reaching out to him, but until you truly believe it for yourself, you won't be at peace.

Good luck and let me know how it all goes.

Heymum

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Registered: 06-05-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 8:29am
He's trying to keep the lines of communication open with you, like keeping you on the back burner in case he decides that he wants to go back to you. He knows (or thinks) that by contacting you thinking about him is inevitable and therefore your getting over him slows down or comes to a halt. It is so hard to follow the 'No Contact' rule. If at all possible, don't respond to him, that is what he is hoping for. Contacting him will make him relax knowing you are still 'there for him'. Good luck in whatever you decide to do. Lucy
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Registered: 09-14-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 1:30pm
I haven't responded to him...and I don't think I will. I realized that he doesn't even contact me to talk...he just sends me random, cryptic messages. They basically just say hi...not an invitation to chat, or even a 'how are you?' What's the point of that? Oh yeah, to make sure I won't forget him...