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| Tue, 11-02-2004 - 4:21pm |
So last night I went out drinking with my best friend. It was a relaxed night, but I drank quite a bit (doesnt take me much). Some guys were hitting on us, and I get it in my head that I miss my ex. When I got home, I texted him, not thinking. (This also gives him my new number). I said, and I quote "I don't know why because you were so mean to me and I don't want to get back together, but I miss u. Just ignore me Im talking nonsense. Hope all is well." Then I freaked because I actually sent it and sent another saying "please please please ignore anything I said. Ive been drinking."
When I woke up this morning, I wanted to frickin die!!! What the hell was I thinking? I was doing splendidly. This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever done in a drunken stupor. Someone tell me that Im NOT an idiot!!!

You simply used some bad judgment. But it's a normal thing and I'm sure most of us on this discussion board have done it. I have contacted my ex various times when I've been drinking. I don't know why...maybe because I get lonely, maybe I'm just bored...and for some reason, I do like to call/text people (not just him) while drunk. I'm not saying I'm a crazy drunk or anything, but I do lose some control over my actions. I have contacted my ex and said dumb, pointless things such as how much I miss him, etc...stuff that means nothing to him.
It has made me feel somewhat better knowing that my ex has done the same thing to me. He has contacted me on several random occasions, usually late at night on the weekends...so I'm pretty sure that he's been out drinking. His texts/phone calls usually don't make any sense...so I've come to realize that he doesn't mean anything by them.
If you haven't done this already, you should definitely take his # out of your phone book. But I know it's easier said than done...and even if you do that, it's not like you don't remember or couldn't find his # somewhere. I took my ex's # out but I haven't forgotten it. So I've learned that it also helps to just turn off your phone. It may be inconvenient for you, but it's better than waking up in the morning and feeling like a complete a*s.
Another thing that has helped me to stop from contacting my ex anymore is reminding myself that: 1) he does NOT care about me...and 2) he does NOT truly want to hear from me--at least not for the right reasons. When we first broke up, I sent my ex numerous emails/texts and called him several times...I tried really hard to make sure he knew that I cared about/missed him. But he usually just ignored me...and would only contact me if I hadn't contacted him for a long period of time. He's not a good person and doesn't want me to be able to forget him, so he's still been contacting me occasionally. But I've been really good about not trying to get ahold of him :) I actually can't even remember the last time that I tried to contact him...
We all make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it...just don't let it happen again. You were doing so well before this mishap and you will only continue to grow stronger--if you let yourself. If you really have a problem with drinking and doing stuff like that, then perhaps you should consider not drinking (at least not as much). But seriously, don't worry about it...it was a mistake and you will learn and grow from it. I know you're embarrassed about what you did, but you really should not feel too badly about it. It happens to the best of us :)
"Fate determines who enters our lives..it is our actions and reactions that determine who stays."
"I never stopped feeling for you, I just stopped letting it show."
it's really mortifying when you do something that stupid, but EVERYBODY does it, and it's totally normal.
drunken contact is okay. just don't do it again! <3