all games??

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Registered: 02-12-2004
all games??
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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 11:19am
So recently I started dating this guy. While we were seeing each other I was extremly happy but I was somewhat involved with someone else. Things fell through with the other guy so I decided to date the other one. Within about a week he found out I had sex with someone else before we were offically together. So he got upset and didnt talk to me for a day. We talked about all of this and it was resolved. A week later we had a conversation about experimenting with drugs. Hes totally against all of it and I am somewhat open to a lot of things. He broke up with me because of this. I was pretty shaken up about it. I kept texting him to try and get some answers and never really got the ones I wanted. A few weeks after that he calls me cause he says he misses me. So he came over my house and we had sex. Then he disappears for awhile and when he finally appears he tells me it was a mistake and he feels he cant make me happy. I was fine with that. Then he comes over a week later and we have a really good time. I ask him if hes just going to disappear again and he says no. Two nights ago I went to his job to visit him and he seemed happy to see me and intiated a hug and a kiss when I left. I asked him if I would see him wed night since he was free. His response was "if you are lucky". So I figured that meant I would. I got my hopes up and he never called or anything. I cant figure out if hes just playing games with my head or not....
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Registered: 01-07-2007
In reply to: leyna419
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 2:26pm

Leyna

I'm sorry sweetie... but yes. He's playing games.

Move on with your life, and just a word of advice from someoene who knows... stay away from the drugs. The will only complicate your life and the lives of those who care about you.

I'm sorry if I've overstepped my bounds. You sound very confused... make a list of goals and see how someone like that really fits into that list. Does he?

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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: leyna419
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:41pm
He has a conflict. He knows he is attracted you and likes you, but he also knows the two of you are incompatible on views of life (drugs, values, etc) and he's probably having an internal tug-a-war. If you like being a booty call, go for it, if you want more, end it.


Carrie

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Registered: 02-12-2004
In reply to: leyna419
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:44pm
I'm pretty sure you hit the nail on the head. Now I just need to look within myself and figure whether I'm okay with it being only about sex or not. Thank you for your opinion. :)