all men are essentially evil -- haha!

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Registered: 04-04-2003
all men are essentially evil -- haha!
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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 2:29pm
Hello all, it's been too long since I've visited an ivillage board. I had a most unexpected phone call the other day and it triggered my urge to vent.
A little over a year I broke off a serious relationship. It wasn't pretty. He lectured me on the phone. During this phone conversationhe tried to pull info. out of me, when I finally told him, he said "thank you, and a routine bye." Bye is all you're going to say? We never spoke again. Three weeks after the phone call having already understood that I didn't want to try to fix it (and he wasn't going to), I accidentally discovered a photo with a caption x-girlfriend, insert my name...how underhanded. Fast forward to the other day, I picked up a phone from an unknown number and it was ex who came to visit his family for the holidays (I live in PA, he in TX). He wanted to go skiing and thought he'd invite me to come along. What nerve! We haven't exchanged a single word since the phone conversation more than a year ago. I wondered how he obtained my number...started to tell me the latest news in his life and about his friends: I thought I misheard him when he was terribly excited to tell me that his best friend (a guy) was pregnant (when did he start communicating like a middle-aged woman?)...he babbled on for a while, as if we've been on good terms all along. So I asked whether he called just to invite me to go skiing -- just he and I going skiing! He couldn't ask me for a cup of coffee (I've no intention of seeing under any pretext)? He had the nerve to ask me to go away with him. So I thought it will be fun to pull his leg and pretended to think about it, but not before he told me that he would go skiing by himself anyway. Then he said something about not being sure whether he should bother me b/c our mutual friend gave him the impression sometime ago that I wasn't fond of him. He didn't know this? He needed to consult her? He hasn't take a single contructive action to reform my negative perception of him, and he thought he could just invite me skiing? I gave him a few chances to tell why he really called; he insisted that he only wanted a good skiing partner. In the end, he said he would call me to see if we can pick the days when we both can go. I didn't think he would be calling, didn't take it seriously. Even if I could get away, and desperately wanted to go skiing, he would be the last person I would go with. He phoned me first thing the following morning, fumbled through his voicemail msg, took him 3 tries to dictate his own cell number, what he forgot about caller ID? I took some hours to return his call, when his voicemail picked up (I had desperately hoped for that -- this was my window of opportunity to say everything I thought of him b/c I didn't get any chances a year ago)I used it to tell him that what an insincere, selfish creep he was; that I already knew that he was a coward, and that now I cannot decide whether he is a complete jerk or just a doofus or both. I would be embarrassed to use such a lame line and make such a preposterous offer. What he got lonely? I would've gladly arranged the company of an exceptional escort for the duration of his skiing trip. The truth would have been so much more becoming. What's your perspective boys and girls? I believe in grand and sincere gestures if you want to win someone over. This obviously wasn't it. Lying is not an option. I'm trying to get to the bottom of his motives. His approach so far has been anything but noble.
R.


Edited 12/28/2004 3:31 pm ET ET by dumberu
Brat Princess
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 1:50pm

dumberu...

There's absolutely no way any man (even the one you're constantly putting down) is going to want to spoil you with a "grand and glorious gesture!"

Why?

Because your sarcasm, negativity, smugness and basically nasty attitude toward males in general are an absolute turn-off...what man in his right mind is going to give you the time of day?

You're certainly entitled to your own opinions about us....but unless you plan to "lose the attitude" and MEAN IT....you can ski and do everything else ALONE! And (quoting singer Sheryl Crowe here)..."IF IT MAKES YOU HAPPY..." you probably will be alone for a very long time!

Ladies likes yourself are the reason men stop chasing. Why bother soiling our shoes over a woman whose negative attitude means so much more than having a good friendship...let alone a relationship? TRULY PATHETIC!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 12-18-2004
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 2:00pm

I like this guy!!!

Thank you for reminding us of the following:

Males have a penis and a brain, and use either of them on occasion.

Men have a penis and a brain, and know how to use them together.

Mimiche

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 2:55pm
I remember you!!
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