Almost year, and he still haunts my dreams

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Almost year, and he still haunts my dreams
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Sun, 06-19-2011 - 3:23pm

My ex (we'll call him J) and I were together for a year when he decided to call it off...over facebook.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 06-19-2011 - 6:57pm

I guess your mind is wishing that you'd called it off face to face.

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 1:56pm

I suppose you're right.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 9:22am

Seeing someone "off and on" for the past eight months... Why is it off/on? That doesn't sound like a solid prospect.

My guess is that your dreams are not about relationships, they are about power and control. In your relationship, since he was a deadbeat leech, you were really the one with the power/control. When he dumped you, he usurped that control completely. And a part of you may feel that since he was leeching off of you, he didnt' really have the "right" to do that. So I'm guessing you're battling with feelings of having power taken away from you, and self-worth.

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 2:07pm

Perhaps "off and on" was not the wording I was looking for.