alone again - he says he's scared

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Registered: 05-15-2006
alone again - he says he's scared
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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 11:54am
my boyfriend broke up with me on wednesday. he says he loves me and he's had the best time of his life with me, but he's having doubts and he's not ready to commit to anybody right now. it came out of nowhere. i love him and i miss him so much. we were nothing but happy. this was his first relationship. i want him back so bad. i want to call him. i can't stop looking at his myspace. i want to drive by his work and. .. i dont know. i'm being pathetic but i'm hurting so much. what should i do?
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Registered: 09-05-2005
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 12:46pm

HS~

Slow down a bit. How long have you been dating? I am having a hard time giving my ex his 'space', but I think it would be good for you to try that with him. We can't let our every thought and action hinge upon what someone else says or does or doesn't say/do (I am saying that to myself more than you ;) )

Do you have any friends you can spend time with for some distraction and distance?

Keep us posted on what happens next.

You will get through whatever is going on, we all do :)

Hugs

L

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 10:50am
I didn't call him. So that was good. We only dated for 3 months, but we had a stronger connection that I have ever felt before. I really do love him. I am trying so hard to give him his space, but it's difficult. I miss him and I don't know how long it is going to take. I do talk to my friends and such, but I hate burdening them with this, especially because they are both getting married and even my sister is pregnant right now. So I just feel like I am bringing a big black cloud into their happy lives. So I just try and deal with it on my own, but it's hard. I am really sensitive, and even though we didn't date long, I love him. And I end up crying like, 3 hours every day. I hate it. I want to talk to him so bad. I need help.