Alone and confused

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Registered: 06-30-2007
Alone and confused
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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 5:13pm

Hi,

I met this great guy, someone who I thought would be my forever and led me to believe so until 2 weeks ago when he suddenly and out of no where told me he didn't know how he felt. Now I am sitting here feeling alone and confused by how quickly this could have happened. I feel so up and down right now. The first week is the hardest, but now I do feel better. It is just that every now and then I start crying again out of hurt and anger. I moved to where I am living less than a year ago and don't have many friends since he was quite frankly my social life (big mistake on my part I know). The friends I do have are also friends with him so it is hard to be around them because it reminds me of him. He still wants to get together so we can talk because he said he needs "closure". I don't want to be angry so I can move on with my life. Any advice?

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Registered: 06-13-2007
Sat, 06-30-2007 - 5:57pm

Keep as busy as you can. Volunteer at a social services agency - what a great way to meet new people! Get out walking. Adopt a pet. Go to church. Put in extra hours at work. Get a second job. Spend time visiting shut-ins at a nearby nursing home. Go shopping to a mall that is out of town. That's my advice, just keep yourself busy so you don't have time to feel alone and confused.

And who knows, maybe you'll meet someone new!!!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 5:07pm

Welcome to the board katydid,


I have a few questions:


1) how long have you been seeing each other?


2) who broke up with who?


He wants to talk to get closure, if he broke up with you, too bad.

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Registered: 06-30-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 6:22pm
He broke up with me. The whole experience was very odd. I never really went through what happened between us in the past it was very final and this time around it was confusion and question. He said he felt depressed and knew that was hurting me (i.e. he didn't want to be with me anymore) and I said we should take some space to think things through. We didn't talk for about a week and then he called because I had some bad family news. He told me he missed me and didn't understand why he felt the way he did, but he did feel depressed. He then said he couldn't imagine not having me in his life, however, he meant as a friend since he never took the opportunity to say he wanted to get back together. He wanted to get together for dinner and I told him no way. Last Monday I emailed him and told him I gave his roommate his stuff if he could do the same. He responded he would still like to get together for dinner and I never responded back. I really have nothing to say to him and don't care to see him for a really long time. A good friend of mine who is also friends with him called me last night and we talked for a bit. She said she talked to him and she doesn't understand what happened. I basically told her it doesn't matter I need to move on with my life and it is over. She is a great friend and I told her I wanted to remain so as long as there wasn't mention of the ex. I know this was very long winded, but it is nice to know I am not alone and be able to talk to people who are going through something similar to me. Oh, we dated almost 6 months (not very long, but I was definitely in love).