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Am I being foolish?
| Thu, 11-15-2007 - 3:38pm |
I'm very confused right now and could use some advice. I've posted on this board before, but I will try and give a very short recap.

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Hi Madsen,
Here's your previous posts for review and for other's to catch up on your story:
Miserable about a breakup
I broke the no contact
Help - How do I get him out of my head?
Should I meet with him?
Thanks for the comments.
I just thought of something - perhaps I'm being overly optimistic, but I was wondering if there are any books you would suggest that HE read (assuming he would be willing).
In this list there are reviews - Recommended Book List
If it's really that important to him, he'll go to therapy without you, and without you suggesting it or helping him through it. Otherwise, it's a bunch of lip service, stuff that sounds great but has no substance.
Just because he misses you and the interaction between you and his family doesn't mean he wants a family with you. Let that one sink in for a bit.
Two months is a drop in the bucket, literally, in order to be able to honestly and clearly deal with the breakup of a two-year relationship. Your'e still thinking muddy. Give it a couple more months before the haze actually starts to clear, sounds as though your'e back in the denial stage.
Thing about breakups is the healing process is NOT a straight line and neither are the grieving stages. You can hop from anger to acceptance to denial and back again all out of order. You're grieving the death of a relationship, not the death of a person. With a person's death, it's pretty final and so the stages are in line because there's no going back. With a breakup, the person is still walking around so simply because of that there's always a chance to go back, but being that they decided they didn't want you in their life, it doesn't mean it's a good idea. That's sometimes harder to take and sometimes takes longer to get over than even a person's death.
Good luck and no don't suggest getting back together and working on it, let him work on himself if this is really what he wants.
ive had an eerily similar situation. does he have a long history of serially monogomous relationships?
He dated a woman for 4 years before me.
Madsen87,
I wrote you a response to your alias directly; did you get it?
If not, let me know,
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