Am I being Naive???

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Registered: 07-25-2004
Am I being Naive???
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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 11:18pm
My BF and I are trying to fix our relationship of 4.5 years. There was no fight or cheating or bad experiences leading up to the break-up it was just a "rut" and he began to feel unhappy. I cant be mad and say he was an a**hole to me or anything like that. We had some issues but not anthing that couldnt be fixed. FOr the last two weeks I feel we have really made progress but I get scared when I see that so many people have not had success the second time around. Is there any hope for a successful second chance?

I have come to a comclusion that our relationship began to get too routine. We got too comfortable and got ourselves in a rut. I am hoping that if we both work on being a little more spontaneous and get out there and do some different things together that it can possibly work. Is this possible or will all things eventually end up the same? I mean is it naive to think this way? I know that when I put my mind to something I can do it, so to me this doesnt seem all that hard to do. Is it possible that something as simple as doing new things and going new places can get us back on track?

Any thoughts would be helpful here.

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Registered: 08-07-2004
Sat, 08-07-2004 - 1:27am
Hi Tigger -

I'm guessing you're both pretty young and restless. I'd love to have a relationship where the 'same old thing' meant no fighting, cheating or bad experiences. Maybe you should try weighing what's good about the relationship against what's bad. If you're wishing for something more 'interesting', be careful about what you wish for!

Best of luck,

Sue

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Registered: 07-25-2004
Sat, 08-07-2004 - 11:21am
Sue-

I think you might have misunderstood what I said. I am not wishing for something more interesting, we just need to go and do some different things and get out more. I was content and happy but for some reason he isnt anymore. So yes the relationship where the 'same old thing' meant no fighting (of course sometimes over stupid stuff), no cheating or bad experiences...was great for me thats why I cant understand why someone would throw all this away because I know that this type of relationship is hard to find. That why I want to work on it. Thanks