Am I doing the right thing?

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Registered: 05-19-2005
Am I doing the right thing?
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 1:42am

In October of 2004 I was at a party back in my home town(I lived about 2 and 1/2 hours away), when I met a great guy through my sister's boyfriend, who was his freshman roommate in college. I didn't think twice about him cause I am younger then him and didn't think he would ever be interested. Well to my surprise he said something about me to my sister after I saw him a second time. One thing lead to another and my sister gave him my number. Now remember I live 2 and 1/2 hours away, this is important later! Well he call and asked me out for whenever the next time would be in town. We had a great first date! I found out he had a great job, in school so he can become a teacher, was very goal minded and even in the big brother big sister program. I HIT THE JACKPOT!! Even at the end of the date he asked when I would be in town next for him to see me. I thought great! He's interested. He has to be to be setting up another date already. Well I wasn't coming home for a bit but we talk a lot over the internet. Things were great! We were getting to know each other, flirting a lot and I really like him. The next time I was in town right before the date my sister boyfriends said something to me that now I totally get. He said " Joey is on a track and no one can get him off of that track even for a second." I thought ok that's fine. I don't want to get him off of that track. I don't want to change him. I liked him the way he was. Well we had a great second date. Wonderful food! Cheesy movie. AMAZING make-out session! So skip a few weeks after the second date. The only time I hear from him is on the internet. I was even in town a few times and he didn't call or try to get together or anything. So one time when I was home I called him and set up a movie date. It was odd. We said hi watched the movie then went home with a quick peck. So I'm totally wondering what's going on. Cut to New Years. I'm drunk (not with him) and call him to wish him a Happy New Years. Well since we're both in the same town. He says come over to where he was. Well maybe that wasn't the greatest idea but I did. We had fun, both totally smashed. Make out A LOT! And when I try to walk back to my hotel he says stay and we sleep together but there was no sex. So he takes me to my hotel the next day. Says goodbye. And that was the last time I saw him. Doesn't make it the last time I talked to him. About a week later I asks where he sees us going. He says "I don't think it can get serious because You're moving farther away (I was moving about 3 hours away) I'm so busy and when I'm not I'm grouchy. But I really like hanging out with you.(Don't you hate when guys say that!)" Anyway I accepted that anwser and we didn't talk for about a month. I have now sinced moved but we still talk all the time on the internet and some on the phone. For a few months he was all about see me again and visiting or me visiting him. But again he says he's so busy. Then all of a sudden he's saying that he can't get together with me and to "Trust him it's not me". And keeps giving me all these singals about how he likes me. Like he's jealous about other guys or telling me how beautiful I am. So now I'm about to just cut him out of my life. But It's so hard he's such a great guy and I still don't get why we're not together. I miss him. Even though we didn't spend that much together. Am I doing the right thing by cutting him out or should I fight for him and tell him that I think it could work. Thanks so much for listening and the advice.

Kaity

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:07am

kaity....


Your sister said it all: JOEY IS ON A TRACK AND YOU CAN'T GET HIM OFF THAT TRACK EVEN FOR A SECOND!


Unfortunately.....this "train" has decided to take a different direction and that means.....HE'S TRAVELLING DOWN ANOTHER SET OF RAILS!


DUMP HIM and move on.