Am I That Dull ?

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Am I That Dull ?
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Sat, 01-08-2005 - 8:48am

discussion title: Am I that Dull ?
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from: ijade1977
date: 8:41 am

I have just split up with my bf from a long distance relationship of over a year since he thought that the idea of me going to live with him in France wasn't gonna work out.

He's the sociable type of person who loves to party a lot -unlike me .So maybe this difference worried him.
However, he said that I don't have enough sense of humour , worry too much and I'm too serious.I guess he knows why I was too serious since for months he was uncertain about whether I should go to live with him or not.When I asked whether I would be able to change this attitude once I am in France he said yes.

The following day he apologised about such comments and said I shouldn't change but we still didn't get back together.

Do you think that the breakup is my fault for being such a dull person?

I loved him so much and did so many sacrifices to meet up with him monthly that I feel betrayed !


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Registered: 03-07-2004
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 11:05am
I think you're giving far too much concern about a man who basically told you you weren't good enough for him. It hurts, and you feel betrayed and that's understandable. You also need to understand that this is evidence that he's just not that into you.
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 12:48pm
It seems that the man's life style is more relaxed than yours, BUT that doesn't mean that you're dull. Most of the Europeans are relaxed and take life as it comes and they say that Americans are too uptight and worry too much. The reality is that Europeans and Americans have different approaches to life and conduct themselves in different ways and that doesn't make one better than the other. Be content with who you are and don't chnage for a person. Perhaps, he's looking for someone to share his party like life style and you're not it. His comments were a tad harsh but then you had your doubts about living with him too, right? Now it's time to move on. Don't let a comment get you down.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 5:17pm
I DO NOT think the break-up was your fault for being yourself.
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Registered: 08-31-2004
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 9:58pm

Its probably the case that he wasn't ready to go to the next level as up to a couple of days ago I was celebrating Christmas and New Year with him and his family.

I just wish that he will regret it and come back to me and then I'll say no,just to feel satisfied that I was really worth it!

Thanks for the lovely picture.

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 10:01pm
I only had doubts really living with him because I knew he was feeling doubtful himself about my potential move!