...and at 33 days, he contact me. lol.

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Registered: 03-08-2007
...and at 33 days, he contact me. lol.
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Wed, 04-04-2007 - 10:18am

well, i'm just posting this as living proof of many of the excellent insights offered in the expert advice section. i've been moving on, getting comfortable with NC (33 days), and WHAM, the realization that he hasn't heard from me apparently prompted him to contact me, via IM, last night.

and the thing is, i didn't even want to respond. not with any of the smartass responses i've periodically entertained myself with in (partial) expectation of just this scenario occuring. not with half-ass hi how are you conversation, not with something angrier, like "leave me alone." i just had nothing to say. and so that's what i did, i kept NC intact, i said nothing, and it feels fantastic.

i hope this is another step in the right direction. perhaps we'll speak again someday, but it'll be if and when i'm ready...

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 12:11pm
Kudos to your girl! Your silence said more than words. You did what you wanted and had control of the situation. You felt good.
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 5:13pm
You Go Girl!!! You didn't break NC, and look after 33 days, he couldn't take it anymore. It's so weird, because it just seems like the moment you feel like your moving on, they sense it, and have some type of radar on their heads, because out of nowhere, they contact you. I'm glad you didn't respond. He will try to contact you more now, since you ignored him. You keep the ball in your court, without playing games. You talk to him when your ready, and hopefully if you do talk, it won't affect you any kind of way. That's soooooo nice, when that happens. Ok, ladies, if your reading this post, maintain the NC rule. I know it's hard, but I promise you, they will call you, it may take years, but they eventually do, and by then, it won't even matter.