Off and on again -i want him back
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Off and on again -i want him back
| Thu, 01-03-2008 - 2:58pm |
Hi all. I'd like some advice on my situation. My ex left about 2 days ago. We have been dating for a little over 3 yrs. For the first 2 years we lived in city A together. I'd say in the span of those 2 years he broke up with me 5 times for about a week and went to his mom's. But he never took all his stuff from our house. He would just take a bunch of clothes and leave. And every time he'd leave. I really thought it was over. But I'd txt him and call and email him begging to come back. After a few days of that he'd always come back. Then we moved to city B, about 2 hours from city A and his mom's house. When we first moved here he did the usual breakup and go to his moms. But he hadnt had a job here yet, so it was easy for him to just leave. And this time he had to drive 2 hrs to get there. He didnt take all his stuff either. Now lets fast forward to 2 days ago. We fought, he took EVERYTHING he owns from the house and went back to city A to stay at his moms. But this time he had to quit the job he had here. This makes things seem really final to me. I dont know what to think. Do you think he'll be back since it is his MO to take off for awhile. We have been best friends for about 10 years and I'm sure absolutely love each other. He gets mad and very impulsive. I want him back. Should I just leave him alone and not call or do the usual beg and plead for him back.
Edited 1/3/2008 3:40 pm ET by marcie1617
Edited 1/3/2008 3:40 pm ET by marcie1617

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I'm confused. What time crunch do you feel??
Let me expand on Sandra's post a bit - when he comes back she doesn't mean you should jump into his arms at first kiss. It means that he should be taught that his actions have consequences, and you're not going to wait around for him to get his head on straight. If he wants you, he's going to have to run, and run fast to catch you. And make no mistake, if he really wants you, you'll be surprised at how fast he can sprint.
One of the chief reasons I chose not to return to my ex was because my mom told me that he was immature. And she's a right smart lady. She said that he never learned to face the consequences of his actions, in that he was always allowed to backtrack without repercussions. So if I let him back into my life, he would only break my heart again.
And don't beg, like Sandra said, because it really does eliminate any respect he ever had for you. Especially when his last impression of you is a groveling woman because that is the image of you that he will carry around for a long time after you've separated for good. So chin up, demand of him the same respect you feel you deserve.
All the best
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
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