Anger now....

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Registered: 01-21-2005
Anger now....
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Thu, 08-02-2007 - 9:52pm
I thought it was bad to feel pain and hurt but I now I think anger is worse! Stage two? At first I was just so hurt and disallusioned after him spending nearly two years planning the rest of our lives and doing everything he could to win me... and now he's "not sure" about anything and wanting "time off' which I am just calling a breakup because that's what it is. So now, after the final email (he came back with "no, let's not take a berak" and then "yeah, we need to" game) from him, I just feel so angry! Feel lied to, led on... so frustrated he's being illogical and unfair! I know it does no good to be angry, but I don't know what to do with this feeling! I keep replaying his selfishness and his rejection. I am leaving this week for a vacation in Cayman and he was supposed to come along and now I have to go alone (with family but without him) and I am just so angry at him about it! Selfishness sucks! Does this stage pass too?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: meaqui
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:34am

It does. But I also have found the anger stage is the hardest to get through because anger is so uncomfortable to feel and live with. It helps to journal a lot (get it out) and also to do as much physical exercise as you can. But ultimately you just have to let it run its course.

The good news is, it means you are making progress even though it doesn't feel good.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-21-2005
In reply to: meaqui
Sat, 08-04-2007 - 9:52am
THanks for the encouragement. I am mostly distracting myself so I can't believe it has been a whole week already! Next week and sitting around on the beach is going to be so much harder... especially since I am so angry at him for not coming!
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Registered: 07-30-2007
In reply to: meaqui
Sat, 08-04-2007 - 5:58pm
The beach will be good for you. Spend time appreciating the sound of the waves on the shore, the feel of the sand in your feet, and watching sunsets and sunrises. The beach has a such a relaxing effect and I bet if you go there with the attitude that this too, shall pass, and you're a powerful, amazing woman, you will return renewed and ready to deal with the next step. It's all about us focusing on ourselves now, and making ourselves the better for this difficult experience of being broken up with, so do just that! Live it up at the beach and forget the loser!
Good luck. I tell you this advice because I am trying to take it myself, btw...
xo