Angry

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Registered: 02-11-2007
Angry
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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 6:47am
My ex and I broke up about a week ago - much to my surprise. I woke up today VERY ANGRY. I have a treadmill that I'm about to jump on but when does all this pain and anger go away? I start a new job on Thursday so that will help but I want to be in a good spot when I start working again. How do you stop thinking about him, and when he does creep in your thoughts, how do you stop thinking "I hate him"? I'm reading the books, journaling, and trying to improve my self esteem but WHEN DOES IT GO AWAY?

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Registered: 02-19-2007
In reply to: karvs
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 7:50pm
karvs-I have been crying off and on all day because of my ex. Seeing you get better gives me hope. My ex broke it off a couple weeks ago and we remained good friends and the other day he said he had a date!!!!....who was I fooling being friends with him? I think in the back of my mind he'd change his mind and realize that I am an awesome woman and take me back but no. It stung sooo bad. I called him and told him that we can't be friends, I still have his stuff and I've been crying. Time heal all wounds....I love the advice about everytime you catch yourself thinking about him to say "stop". I'll use that.
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In reply to: karvs
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 8:26am
I'm sorry Belly that you are feeling so low. I don't understand how they can just walk away - like nothing ever happened - then find someone new IMMEDIATELY!!! I can't even THINK of being with someone else. But as you know from the book, they've already moved on before they even tell us they're done. Jerks. I am feeling better today but who knows how long that will last...Last Tuesday is the last time I spoke to him and he told me he didn't want "a serious relationship"...that he wanted to be "footloose and fancyfree" who even uses that term anymore? ha. Anyway, one day at a time (or hour - whatever the case may be). At least we can learn something from all this while they will just keep repeating their same mistakes and never be happy for long. Peace.
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In reply to: karvs
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 8:31am
laura - i feel for ya sister! I actually, for the first time - feel like I might be getting better! WOO-HOO!!!! We can't give them or our feelings any power. As everyone says - those feelings hold no power over us - we just have to feel them and let them go. That being said - I just had to go have a mini-cry. laura- keep talking to people, run, walk, scream. It really does help - journaling has been an incredible help to me and something I'm going to continue to do thru-out my life. Give that a try. Hang in there girl...it truly will get better...just not right now.

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