Angry at myself

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Angry at myself
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Sun, 08-26-2007 - 8:01pm

Do you ever feel angry at yourself when going through the grieving process of your breakup? Everyone keeps telling me not to dwell on it, just move on already, worry about me, make me better ... but I don't know how to do that.

I had to see him for work the other day and he treated me like sh*t and I was really angry at him for that. But my anger has faded a little bit and sadness has returned and I actually find myself missing him again and grieving the loss of our relationship. But then I get angry at myself that I'm missing someone who would treat me like that and that I'm not still angry for how I was treated.

But I'm also sad because I don't know why he would purposely not want to be in a relationship with me, but instead have some fling with some married chick who he used to tell me "was just a friend he was helping with her marriage" and before when I was around he complained about how she was "drama."

I just feel like I'm never going to get out of it ...

And then angry again at myself for allowing myself to still be stewing over it when everyone says I should be moving on and I know I should ... and I know he's not sitting around wallowing over the loss of me because he's too busy with his married friend!

Lisa

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 1:57pm

Hi scoobynshaggy,


Everything you feel is normal.

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 2:10pm

Thanks Carrie.

I think I'm being tough on myself because my family and friends are tired of it and think I should be over it, but they don't understand that I'm thrown back in the grieving process again because I had to see him at work and that brought everything back up all over again. So they think I should be getting over it and moving on, but again I'm going back through all the phases again ...

Thanks for your support and encouragement.

Lisa

Lisa

 

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 12:43pm

It's good to be tough on yourself sometimes. it helps drive you forward through the process.

Actually, this is probably the roughest time of the grieving process. Your friends think you should have moved on but you're still grieving. chances are you are only cycling through the grieving process again, which is v. v. v. v. natural. Every time you cycle, your emotions have less and less of an impact on you until one day, you stop cycling. So there IS an end.

cheers
Susanna

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your