ANOTHER CHANCE?

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Registered: 06-19-2005
ANOTHER CHANCE?
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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 11:26am
MY EX AND I BROKE UP A MONTH AGO, WE WERE DATING FOR ALMOST A YEAR. THE REASON WE BROKE UP WAS THAT HE WAS GOING THROUGH SOME VERY TOUGH TIMES,(HE FINALLY REALIZED HE NEEDED TO FACE HIS PAST AND STOP RUNNING), HIS DAD COMMITTED SUICIDE WHEN HE WAS 14, AND HE LOST HIS SON OF 8 DAYS ABOUT A ONE AND HALF YEARS AGO. HE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS NOT EMOTIONALLY CAPABLE OF BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. I LATER FOUND OUT THAT HE WAS PUSHING ME AWAY THEN RUNNING TO RANDOM GIRLS HE MET AT THE BAR FOR SUPPORT ABOUT HIS ISSUE. HE WOULD CALL ME AND TELL ME THAT HE STILL LOVES ME AND THAT HE WANTS TO GET HELP AND GET OVER HIS PROBLEMS SO WE COULD GET BACK TOGETHER. I GOT FED UP WITH ALL HIS BS CAUSE ALL HE WAS DOING WAS TALKING BUT NOT SHOWING OR PROVING ANYTHING. I RETURNED ALL HIS BELONGINGS, AND WROTE A LETTER TELLING HIM HOW MUCH I CARED, AND I HOPE HE FIGURES HIS LIFE OUT AND IF HE EVER REALIZES THAT HE WANTS TO BE WITH ME HE CAN GIVE ME A CALL AND HOPEFULLY IT WAS NOT TOO LATE. IT WAS A GOODBYE AND GOOD LUCK IN THE FUTURE. HE CALLED ME UP LATER THAT NIGHT TELLING ME HOW STUPID HES BEEN AND THAT HE WANTS ME BACK IN HIS LIFE. ALL THOSE GIRLS MEANT NOTHING TO HIM, HE WAS STUPID FOR EVER TALKING TO THEM, HE SAID HE JUST WANTED TO BE SURE THAT HE REALLY LOVED ME AND WAS STILL IN LOVE WITH ME. I TOLD HIM STOP TELLING ME AND START PROVING IT,CAUSE I'VE HEARD THEM ALL BUT I HAVE NOT SEEN ANY ACTION.AND I'VE TOLD HIM ITS THE LITTLE THINGS THAT COUNT, I DON'T NEED HIM TO BUY ME EXPENSIVE THINGS, JUST LITTLE THINGS THAT SHOED ME THAT HE CARES.THAT WAS ABOUT A WEEK AGO, HE STARTED BRINGING BE LUNCH AT WORK, EAT WITH ME ON MY BREAK, BROUGHT ME FLOWERS. HE IS MAKING A VERY BIG IMPROVEMENT, I HAS NEVER BROUGHT ME LUCH ONCE WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER AND FEEL VERY APPRECIATIVE THAT HES TRYING TO PROVE HIMSELF NOW. SHOULD I GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE? THERE IS A LOT THAT WE BOTH NEED TO DO TO IMPROVE THE RELATIONSHIP AND I NEED SOME ADVICE ON HOW TO DO THEM. PLEASE ANTHING WOULD HELP. THANK YOU
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 07-03-2005 - 2:31pm

My gut reaction is that all

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