Another Situation!!!

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Another Situation!!!
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:32pm
Hey! I posted last night about a serious topic i won't get into it but the advice really helped me see things a little more clearly. Now i have another question. I started nursing school back in august and it's hectic. I go to school 5 days a week 8, sometimes 9 hours a day and on the weekends i work 2, 12 hour shifts at a local hospital. Im really pressed for time. Since i have a new relationship and my ex is still 'sort of' in the picture do you think that it would be easier on me if i ended with the new bf and told the ex that i just need time to concentrate on school, friends and MYSELF for once. I have wanted to be a nurse for as long as i can remember and i am not gonna let anyone mess that up. To me, it seems like the right idea, but i can't hurt my current boyfriend, he is so sweet and does everything to help me out but it is just not enough i get easily aggravated with him and that is not fair for him. I just feel like things would be easier if i was alone for once. What do you guys think?
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Registered: 12-18-2004
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 7:41pm

Rachel,

Wow! School and work together! You really are a committed, young lady. Good luck to you in getting that nursing degree.

I think you would be doing yourself a great favor by breaking it off completely with your ex. I haven't read your previous post, but the term "EX" tells me it's over. You've wasted enough time already, and it sounds like every minute should count with your schedule.

As for the new man....what's wrong with just being a friend? I think your aggravation is perhaps guilt over not feeling the same way as he does? You may think this will hurt him by breaking it off, but what do you think it does everytime he tries to get close and you push him away? Maybe a good talk, getting everything out in the open, will clarify the boundaries of what YOU want and need out of a relationship at the moment. It doesn't sound like you're ready to settle down, but there is no sense in being alone until that time comes. Of course, the "slapping/tickling/groping thing" will have to stop if it already has started. I think you will find out what kind of a friend you can be in the process.

Good luck to you,

Mimiche

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 9:58pm
I think you already know what you should do.
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