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| Fri, 06-16-2006 - 9:46pm |
A guy I was seeing for just a couple of months broke up with me in April because he thought I wasn't over my exboyfriend, who I've had an off-and-on relationship with for years. He thought he'd either be my rebound or I'd get back together with my ex, who wanted me back. I assured him that wasn't the case, that this was different, that I really liked him, but he said he couldn't do it. Since then, I've cut off all contact with the ex, which I'd never done before, and I still miss the new guy. I know they say it's called a breakup because it's a broken, but is this one of those times when maybe there's a chance time can fix things? We've had absolutely no contact since he ended things, so he has no idea I'm no longer talking to the ex, but I'm scared to contact him in case he doesn't want to hear from me, or in case he's seeing someone new. I really think he just got scared because in the beginning he told me he couldn't believe how quickly he was falling for me, that he doesn't ever feel that connection so easily and so fast. I feel the same way, and I hate that my past has ruined what could've been a good future.
Any ideas? Should I contact him or just let it go? Do guys really get scared and cut their losses before they can get hurt, or was that just an excuse?

How often were you in contact with your ex while you were with this new guy? And why did it take him breaking up with you to make you end all contact with your ex? It sounds like you were open about the fact you were in communication with your ex and that your ex wanted you back -- not sure why you'd share all this with a new bf??
If I were in your position, I would call, email or write a letter apologizing for staying in contact with your ex and not respecting his feelings, letting him know you've ended all contact with your ex and that if he is open to it, you would really like to try again.
If he's already moved on, then you should too.