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| Wed, 03-15-2006 - 8:53am |
Hi all - thanks for your wonderful responses to my post yesterday. Did I mention how much I hate mornings : ( Whole day ahead to ruminate about him and how much I miss him. Wishing I could crawl in a hole. I know Memphis, you mentioned you were reading a self-help book now, is it helping at all? Any other recommendations for "healing" type books?
Thanks and hope you all have a "strong" day today.
Thanks and hope you all have a "strong" day today.

Books I've found helpful during breakups:
It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken by Greg Behrendt
Men Who Can't Love/He's Scared, She's Scared by Steven Carter (if there are commitment issues involved)
In the Meantime, by Iyanla Vanzant (not really a breakup or relationship book...more inspirational and about healing/working on yourself...it's wonderful, IMO)
Sheri
I liked bittergirl and I used to miss him, but my aim is improving. I immediately put myself into those books the day after my breakup. Also, if you are more into karma and such, there are plenty books on Kabballah, i liked the one called The red string book. It isnt a religion, but it can help you to think clearer in the aftermath of a breakup. I found it very enlightening. It has been 3 weeks and a day for me and I still catch myself reading these books, especially at night, that is when i am in bad shape.
I hope this helps. I am going through this one day at a time, just trying to survive day by day. Keep your head up!
Those are all great books that I have read. Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov is also good to build self-esteem.
It's been about two months since my breakup and today I am still just angry as can be. I would love to exact some revenge, but I am trying to turn this anger into positive energy focused on my future. If I hear those words "just move on" one more time, I think I will scream.
I will just try to hang in there with you ladies one day at a time. It sure is hard though and it sure takes a long time. Love you all! C
Five must-reads (IMHO):
"It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken" by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt
"He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
"Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve" by Ian Kerner
"Men Who Can't Love : How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart" by Steven Carter
"Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship" by Sherry Argov
If you go out to Amazon, you can read the first few pages of a lot of these books and see if you like them. You can often also get good deals on books out there. I have the daily tear-off calendar for "He's Just Not That Into You" and LOVE it. Every day it's a little reminder of how I almost settled for less than I deserve. Today's tear-off: "If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will." Some days that calendar gave me just the little jolt I needed to pull me out of my morning sadness!!!
Steph
I dove into books after my recent break up and read:
It's Called a Break Up Because it's Broken
How to fall out of Love
Mr Right, Right Now
and a few other books that I bought that haven't interested me enough to actually start reading them yet.
It's called a break up is a good book, but the book I am in the middle of right now that has really helped me is Mars and Venus on a Date by Dr. John Gray. I scoffed because I thought it would be a bunch of psycho babble crap, but it really taught me a lot about relationships and showed me that even though my boyfriend was the one who ended the relationship I had a hand it in it as well. It has also taught me that if you want to be open to love again you need to let go of your old loves with an open heart, I know it sounds easier said then done. But I sent my ex a letter letting him know what I thought of the things he did and said to me and also thanking him for the things I got out of the relationship. I don't expect a response, which is how I knew I was ready to truly let go of him without being bitter. The book helped me really realize what was best for me and I highly sugget it.
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Is it this one?:
How to Fall out of Love : How to Free Yourself of Love That Hurts--and Find the Love That Heals by Robert Judd, Dr. Debora Phillips
Is that a good book? Has anyone read: How to Break Your Addiction to a Person by Howard Halpern? It sounded interesting...
Steph
Hi Steph,
I just started reading How to Break Your Addiction to a Person and so far it's pretty good. I always recommend "Men Who Can't Love" to people on these boards, and this new read is almost ranking up there. Of course, there's parts I don't 100% agree with and examples I can't relate to, but I like what he has to say so far. Plus, it's straight talk and not "goofy" like "it's called a breakup.." (even though I liked that one too, it just served a different purpose).
Anyway, it's a good purchase if you are considering it.