Anybody have the same worries?
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Anybody have the same worries?
| Tue, 01-09-2007 - 5:15am |
Just had a horrible thought, what if I've let go a great, trustworthy guy and there won't be anyone else like that out there. I've been lucky so far that I've never been cheated on but I'm terrified that I've thrown away a good relationship and that I won't be able to find a decent guy again.
There seem to be a lot of bad guys out there.... :(
Anyone have the same worries?

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elliwakey...
A male point of view from Pianoguy:
Men and women DON'T RELINQUISH FRIENDSHIPS unless they feel that particular friendship is unhealthy, or that they'll eventually become miserable if they permit it to continue!
There ARE bad guys out there, but there ARE ALSO "bad girls" too!
Any relationship (including casually dating and or a serious marriage) involves risk! So if you don't feel comfortable taking one.....THEN DON'T!
Stay single instead!
Pianoguy
Thanks guys.
I know what you are saying pianoguy, but its difficult for things not to get blown out of all proportion and fears to kick in.
Thanks for the reassurance. Hopefully my judgement is good enough to weed out the fools...worked so far I think.
xxx
YAP....TELL ME ABOUT IT HA???
i just wish that if someone break up our heart....IT'S VERY EASY TO JUST FORGET ABOUT THEM...TOTALLY....IF WE COULD JUST DELETE THAT PART OF OUR MEMORY OF THEM...I'LL BE GLAD...LOL
GOOD LUCK....HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
Hello there:
I often wonder the same thing. I just got dumped by someone who I thought was perfect for me...focused, driven, smart, funny. But it just didn't work out. What scared me about the break-up was wondering if I should've fought harder to make him stay with me, because he seemed like the perfect type. But how perfect for me was he if he dumped me, know what I mean? But what I realized (and maybe you could keep this in mind) is that the one that is perfect for you, the great guy that you want in your life, won't leave you. You won't pass him by, because he'll notice you and want to be in your life, just like you've noticed him. There are a lot of bad guys out there, but they're not bad just because...they come from a history of hardships just like you and I. While that isn't justifiable for them to be crappy boyfriends, it certainly helps in understanding them. Just know that when it's right, it's right. And then your worries will dissapade. Hope that helps a little. :)
I know you're right. Problem is me and my boyfriend made the mutual decision to split due to recurring issues and I can't help but wonder whether we should work at it. It was only a 6 month relationship so I realise its not as hard as others but we really got on well.
I would love to believe that when you meet the right person you just know because you're on the same page etc. That sounds lovely and I hope it happens for us all.
I like to think of coupes like my mum and dad who are still together and happy after 25 years, that cheers me up. And I thought to myself if I am drawn to men like my dad (as the psychologists say) then I can't go far wrong hopefully lol. Does that sound weird?? Probably!
I think I speak for every woman in the world here...
we all do.
I feel that way now... and I felt that way before... and I think sometimes that I had a man who was SO close to what I thought to be perfect that I couldn't stand the thought of losing him.
But... make that list! Make a list of what you want... what you will and cannot compromise on.
I know this is stupid... but I will NEVER date a man who is a sloppy dresser. EVER. And, I will not date a guy who curses more than I do because it bothers me a lot.
I would LIKE a guy who can cook well... and who LOVES gourmet food. Because I DO.
I would prefer a guy who is bald or partially bald because I LOVE that.
I prefer someone who likes to drive... because I hate to drive.
And... I WILL NOT date a man EVER EVER EVER again who has ZERO experience with kids.
:)
How's that for a start?
Hmm good idea making a checklist...
I'd like a guy who is sexy, looks after himself, is patient, affectionate and proud to show me off. Honest and trustworthy, and, if it's not too much to ask, will hopefully never make a mistake (which is where the last bf went wrong - how harsh am i)!!. So ultimately superhuman then! :(
Hey, I can dream.
good luck...
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