Anyone break up and he NEVER called?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Anyone break up and he NEVER called?
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 7:33pm
I know we are not supposed to want them to call, but the truth of the matter is I would feel much better if he would call just once so I can feel that I at least mattered to him in some way. It seems guys always call after a break up, I'm afraid mine wont. He prides himself on being able to cut people off cold. Did anyone break up and he never called and you never saw him again?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 7:01pm
Thank you everyone. I was so sad to hear the stories of pain some of you are going through on this issue. But your words were comforting because I know I have to adjust my feelings and mind to accept the fact that I may never see him or hear from him again. I already decided that I don't want him back. I could never trust someone who just left in the middle of the day while I was at work after saying the day before he wasn't going anywhere. The thing is I just wanted to talk to him, but I guess I don't have a real reason to when I really look at it. It's just hard to be rejected. I thank you all and I will just start to build a new life without him. Good luck to all of you.
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Registered: 10-01-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 9:05am
It will get easier with time, just try to occupy your thoughts and put your energy into other things and eventually you will move on completely. If you do get a whim and want to call him I strongly suggest posting to these boards or calling a friend instead, you will feel so much better that you didn't call him, sometimes those weaker moments can sneak up on you so be prepared :)
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Registered: 11-04-2004
Sat, 11-20-2004 - 2:04pm
Hi All! Anyone who read my posting 2weeks back, may recall, that I was left by my Ex of almosy 6yrs, with no phone call, email, nothing. After six wonderful yrs, I just never heard from him again. Almost as if he fell off the face of the earth. This is the most horrible thing I have ever gone through in my life. Its been over four months and I doubt
I will ever hear from him. As I had to learn through friends that he could not handle the idea of settling down, and was too much of a coward to face me. One day I know I will see this was a blessing and I am the lucky one. There is a part of me still waiting to hear from him, just looking for some apology or explanation, However I truly think I am better off with no contact, makes me see the pathetic fool he really is.
Good luck & use this as an experience to find out who you are & what you deserve! All my thoughts & best wishes!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 11-20-2004 - 9:43pm

::I would feel much better if he would call just once so I can feel that I at least mattered to him in some way.

Some people think the same way you do. The other group thinks, if he calls, then he must care, maybe he still loves me, maybe there's still a chance - it feeds them false hope that the relationship may change.


Carrie

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 8:04am
Right here, I'm goin thru it right now. In a nutshell, I've been engaged to a previous hubby - we were married 10 years ago - while he's been deployed in the military for the last year. After we divorced we had no contact for 8 years and found out we were still in love as of a year ago. While he was overseas we could e-mail each other and I think I triggered some bad memories that made him mad ... and all of a sudden he stopped writing or calling. And it's not like I don't know this guy, we have major roots - tho he may be trying to get back at me for something in our past. I thot we both matured over all this time, I sure have, but it really hurts that he'd play games like this. HE contacted me and the engagement was HIS idea, but I guess he can't handle his past (he was in prison ...). Have you tried contacting your guy?? I've tried but my x-fiance won't respond, for now. He'll probably get over his PTSD and come around, but I'm not waitin for him and his immature games! V
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Registered: 11-09-2004
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 8:25am
I think the work is CLOSURE. I definitely could use some word from my fiance so I could get closure on the end of the relationship - it's a normal reaction. But it's just been this terrible silence ... V
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 11-23-2004 - 8:22pm
Sorry for responding two days late. I didn't feel like getting on line. But to answer your question. No I haven't contacted him because I don't know where he is. The only person that seems to know is his brother and he wont tell me. He says he has to respect his brother's privacy. So there really is nothing that I can do.

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