Anyone feel this way

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Anyone feel this way
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:37pm

Can anyone try to explain why I feel as though i will never be with someone new. Even just looking or talking to a complete stranger gives me such horrible feelings like i can never be with someone new. I think to myself but i dont know anything about them and am terrified of that. Sorry if i am not making sense but it is such an awful feeling that i wanted to know if anyone else ever felt like this.

It has been two months since my breakup of 8 1/2 yrs and my first love since i was 15 and i am just a wreck on never possibly being able to move on from him..

Does this go away or doesn anyone know the feeling i am talking about? It is kind of like i am afraid to move on cause my ex wont know him and just stupid things like that, i guess just not being comfortable with someone new, when i am so used to being comfortable with him. hhuhuhuhuh Sorry

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:50pm

yap your not alone....i felt the same like you....everytime i'm broken up w/my bf i thought i could never find one...but i did and it means i been broken hearted AGAIN...LOL

but what can we do right??? life must go on....just remember life is too short...so if you gonna put your life unhappy cuz of this guy...it will never be worth it...and beside who know's what that guy up to now right???

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Registered: 12-29-2006
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 8:55pm

I've only had one boyfriend too and for a really, really long time. I don't know what it's like to be with someone else, because I've only had one person. When I was newly broken up, the thought of being with someone else would disgust me. Now that the pain has passed, I'm ready to love again. I'm not out trying to look for guys to numb the pain. I'm just living life by going to school, working, working out, and hanging out with friends. That normally takes up all of my time. But now, if that person comes along, I will give him a try.

I think you just have to wait until all of your pain has passed. Your heart will decide when you're ready to date again. I hope you're getting better. =)

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Registered: 02-02-2007
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 4:41pm
My best friend just went through this. Her and her boyfriend of 7 years (since she was 15) broke up because they knew they just didn't have a future. She didn't eat much for weeks, was crying everyday for about a month and did everything she could to keep busy. About 6 months after they broke up she met a guy and they have been dating almost a year now and are planning on getting married. My point is, someone is out there for you, my friend didn't think there was and then she met her current boyfriend. She says she now realizes what true love is and is very happy that things ended with her ex when they did. I hope this gives you hope.
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Registered: 12-07-2006
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 4:48pm

Thank You so much. I hope i am as lucky as your friend. First loves especially 8 yrs of it is awful to end. I hope i just wont be the lonely girl always stuck on her ex as he has moved on.

Thank You