Anyone please read

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Registered: 10-18-2004
Anyone please read
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Wed, 10-20-2004 - 12:26pm
When a guy comes back into your life after he was the one who walked. Finally one day one day he realized what he lost and wants to come back. How do you know that he came back and it is going to work out? You know the saying if he comes back its because he was yours to and if he dosen't it cause he never was to begin with. Usually when a guy does something that make the relationship not work he will do it again and again. Are there couples out there that have broken-up and gotten back togethor and it worked out great. I just want to know if that is true or not.
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Registered: 08-03-2004
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 1:32pm
mely... it really depends on his reason for walking... and it takes a LOT of effort and commitment on both parts to put it back together after that trust has been broken... I only know one couple who put it back together and kept it that way... my stb-x husband walked 3 yrs ago... then 6 months later wanted to come back... we even went to marriage counseling... here I am 3 yrs later... divorce will finalize Dec 4. There is nothing he could say now that would convince me to take him back... I acknowledge my part in this mess too... I do not regret trying to save my marriage, but I also acknowledge that nothing happened in my relationship that I didn't allow... yep, I put up with way more than I should have or would have... but I took those wedding vows very seriously...

just remember that if you allow him to come back, you have to take some responsibility for the decision... good luck with it!