Are mornings hardest for anyone else?

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Registered: 03-07-2007
Are mornings hardest for anyone else?
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 8:15am

So it's been just about a month. I've tried to keep busy, making plans to visit friends out of town, getting back in touch with friends here and trying to make some new ones (since I pretty much lost all of them when I gave up my own and disappeared into the ex's life).

During the day, work keeps me busy, I joined a gym so that helps after. By bedtime, I'm usually pretty tired, but then WITHOUT FAIL around 3am I wake up and toss for the rest of the night till my alarm goes off. The only time I really think about him is in the mornings when I'm tossing and very accutely aware that he is NOT there, and there is no one wrapping their arms around me. In every minute of my day, I feel pretty OK with everything and like I've made real progress towards moving on. And then come 3am, it all comes back. I don't really cry about it, it's not like it was the first few weeks, but I can't seem to get him out of my head. Has anyone else hit this stage? How long does this one last for?

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 7:29pm
My break up was a little over 3 weeks ago and I also wake up in a panic. I have been trying to keep positive. I read good advice, I recite positive quotes.. I tell myself that I have a lot to offer and his rejection doesn't change that. Life goes on and if he doesn't call me ever again, it is his loss. But somehow in those early morning hours, all of the stuff I tell myself during the day has worn off. It is the first waking moments that we again remember that he is not there next to us. I know time heals but the mornings are still awful. I guess there are a lot of us out there feeling the same way at the same time.
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Registered: 06-13-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 11:24pm
It happened to me, too. I could barely sleep following my breakup. I took otc sleeping pills and it really helped. After a week or so, I didn't need them anymore. Also, I wore myself out during the day by walking a lot of miles.
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Registered: 08-15-2007
Wed, 08-15-2007 - 1:36pm
For me, she left for "space" Sunday night, was out of town Monday and Tuesday on business, and came back to leave me last night. Every one of those days, the morning is when I break down. It's when I cry uncontrollably, and just feel a complete lack of her. I've spent each of these nights at a friend's house, but she and I stayed there for a while back when we first got together, and so I still have the same empty-home feeling. It's awful, and I really hope it passes soon. I just don't know what to do with myself.
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Registered: 08-15-2007
Wed, 08-15-2007 - 3:41pm
Me too. Sorry to hear. I had an affair and have no one to turn to. Please don't judge me. I know I'm rotten and deserve this. But he really does too. And he doesn't give a rip.

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