Baby Steps

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Registered: 02-09-2006
Baby Steps
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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 10:32am

Well I'm now 4+ weeks post break up and two nights ago I took a step back to the dating pool. I actually put my profile on a dating site. Hey, I have two friends who met their b/f's on the same site (one's now living with her guy).

I think it might be a way for me to get excited about meeting new men again and it will let me slowly get back into the world. Because most of my friends are in relationships, it would be hard to meet many single men in other ways. I'm going to be upfront with them when we start talking. Letting them know that I want to take things slow. But I feel pretty good about it.

Hey, after two days I'm already on a few peoples favorites list. Not bad for a 42 year old single mom. If nothing else, it's really good for the ego. LOL.

Kathy

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Registered: 06-05-2006
In reply to: kathylandb
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 2:01pm
Can you tell me what site you are using? I've had bad experiences with a couple of on-line dating sites. Congrats on taking that step. Just be sure you are ready, and try not to compare guys to date to your ex.
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Registered: 02-09-2006
In reply to: kathylandb
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 2:20pm

I'm using Plenty of fish (plentyoffish.com) because it's totally free. I had started it once before and then ended up meeting my ex, so I dropped off. I didn't have any bad experiences last time --- or at least no more than when I met men other ways.

As for the comparisons, I think some of that might be inevitable. But I'm in a pretty good place, where I can look at my relationship and see what was good and where it was lacking. I don't think I'm carrying alot of baggage.

My ex and I have started friendly contact again (broke the NC rule), but I think it actually helped me move forward. We didn't have a horrible break. It was more of a case of meeting a really good match at the wrong time. But my biggest worry was that he would get over me quickly and didn't miss me at all. During our talks I realize that's not the case. I think the contact has let me get past the last barrier I had to moving on.

Kathy