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Back again after over 2 years
| Mon, 12-19-2005 - 1:52pm |
I haven't been here for over 2 years and back again. 4th time now my unemployed alcoholic bf & I have separated. I'm getting into therapy next month. I can't do this again. I'm so tired, drained and getting physically sick from stress. I've become a codependent and never realized it. I feel lost, I know I have to pick up the pieces of my life and start over but I'm so messed in the head I can't focus for more than a few minutes at a time. I'm angry at myself for putting up with bad behaviour for so long. I'm angry at him for not seeing that he is worthy of having a good life. He states that he knows he has problems with his upbringing and has issues with his mother who also has a drinking problem but he's all talk. He's never done made an attempt at getting any help for his problems. Anything that goes wrong - it's my fault. Or it's my family's fault. Or it's a co-worker's fault. I know he's bad for me and I need to stay out of contact I just need to figure out some ways to stick to this
Edited 12/19/2005 1:53 pm ET by anewpage
Edited 12/19/2005 1:53 pm ET by anewpage

Codependents Anonymous and/or Al-Anon ... pronto ... go online today and find a meeting, don't wait, ok?
www.coda.org
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
Therapy is great, but ... take it from someone who's BTDT ... it is so much more beneficial to be in "support" with other loved one's of alcoholics. And, it's free. Go to therapy, but don't NOT go to CoDA or Al-Anon ... supplement this with therapy, not the other way around. Trust me on this one.
I agree with Starbuck, please go to an al-anon meeting as soon as possible.