Back N Forth Nonsense whynot call it off

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Back N Forth Nonsense whynot call it off
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Fri, 03-17-2006 - 2:18pm

its been well over a year and we still go back and forth.........why do we do that? I filed for divorce twice now and each time we reconcilled ......

Married for 13 years and 5 kids later, but what is our problem? why cant we make a clean break?

when its the good times its absolutely wonderful and then we get pissed and break up. Ive moved into my own home with kids alternating each night of the week and we all go to his house on weekends. I think the only reason he doesnt make a clean break is because hes afraid of losing the kids.(he need not be afraid) He has been a wonderful husband most of the time, but i cant help but wonder if theres more out there for me. I am still fairly young and just yesterday a fella asked me if my 20 year old son was my boyfriend!!!! So that brightened my day considerably. I am 37 years old, and i guess i am growing tired of the back and forth nonsense. anyone have any words of wisdom?

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 7:37pm
You can only control how you behave and the choices you make. If you want it to work, jump in with both feet, if you want your freedom, you will have to be the one to be strong and set boundaries. Have you gone to counseling to help you sort through your emotions? It might help.


Carrie