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behaving myself post break up
| Sat, 04-09-2005 - 5:19pm |
Everyone, I need serious advice. I broke up with my boyfriend on Thursday. It's so hard to end things when you still care about someone, but infidelity is not something that I want in my relationship and I will not be a part of it. I haven't answered the phone since Thursday and am working on the no contact deal. That is harder than it sounds. Right now I'm doing no contact as an immature way to get back at him. :) We cannot get back togather (we've tried, he just goes back to cheating) so there is no reason to get our emotions going every time we talk to each other. My problem is that I do not know what to do with myself while I am healing from this. I have work or school every single day so my days are busy, it's the night time that is hard. I just cry (make that sob) and toss and turn and can't to sleep. It takes everything in me not to call him or answer the phone. The problem is, the only thing I know to do to get over someone is to go and party. That leads to finding a rebound guy and sleeping with him and feeling terrible in the morning. But this is the ONLY way I know to get over someone. And, I DO NOT want to go back to the partying lifestyle but I'm not going to be ready for another relationship for a loooooong time so what do I do in the meantime? Let me mention that I am only 20 years old, and most of my friends are obviously wild college age people so they never want to just watch a movie or be calm! I usually go for older guys (this ex was 29) because I do not like the whole party scene. But, I always seem to get caught up in it when I am going through a break up. HELP!!!!

Nights are pretty bad but they do get easier. If he cheats on you then he's not worth your time. I know right now you just want to make the pain, loneliness, and sense of rejection go away but it can't. At least not right away. Think you should take this time to revalue yourself. Understand that you are a wonderful person who deserves somone who will respect, cherish, and celebrate you. If when you feel down just get on here and vent. This has been a great outlet for myself and others. Best of luck to you and try to keep your chin up.
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