Being the heartbreaker hurts too?

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Being the heartbreaker hurts too?
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 10:59pm

I've been seeing a guy just over 2 months who treats me amazingly and is super nice, yet I noticed the past 2 weeks that I have been trying to hard to feel a spark in this relationship. Its just not there and I don't feel half the way that he does for me. I came to the conclusion that is better to end things than to stay together just because he is nice and sweet. Yet tonight when I broke it to him it was so hard.

I never have been the dumper, but I feel horrible! I'm sure I did the right thing because I don't think it could have worked long term (this is the first guy I started seeing after my 3 year relationship ended, too). Still, I'm sad. He confessed to me tonight that I was basically his first real girlfriend. I know I took him by complete surprise tonight.

Being dumped before enough times I know the hurt he is feeling and I can't believe I did that to such a great person. He's just more of the "friend" type, I guess... I just don't feel the attraction.

Is it normal to feel this crappy about being the dumper?

S

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 12:01am
I've never been the dumper myself, but I would imagine that yes, it is absolutely normal to feel yucky about dumping someone that you respect and genuinely like as a person but just don't feel that "thing" with. If it was the right thing to do, and you were kind, then don't sweat it girl.