From best friends to exes..
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| Wed, 02-06-2008 - 8:35pm |
*sigh*
My ex ended things with me a few months ago. And I can't come to grips with it! I know that we shouldn't have any contact...well it has dwindled but we definitely do talk, and my heart skips a beat when I get a text or see his name on my call display! I guess what keeps me from letting go is the fact that I still hold on to the idea that he still wants to be with me. I say this, because through out our relationship a main factor for our arguments was over his family. I absolutely adore them! Especially his sister...they are all very wonderful people...but for whatever reason they didn't feel the same towards me. And I have an inkling that he ended things with me because of them, and the fact that they didn't approve of me. I just wish he would have told me the truth when he broke up with me. His excuse was that he's too busy....it's funny how he can suddenly be too busy for me 3 years into our relationship...but I think he knew that there would be no future with us that he ended things so abruptly....but how come he couldn't just come right out and say it? Instead of giving me a line? Well...that was a few months back.
Our conversations lately have been really great though. We talk the way we did when we were only best friends and nothing more. And I definitely don't want to spoil that...but sometimes I really wish I could tell him that I miss him dearly, and that I still think about him everyday...and that the love I have for him is definitely still there.. :(
Thanks for listening to my little rant.
<3
one confused girl.

Hey Old Skool!
From reading your story it seems that you and your ex still have managed to maintain some sort of friendship that existed prior to your moving the relationship from friends to lovers.
Hey Pinky (very cute name btw)
Thanks for responding to my post. I would definitely agree that I need to have no contact...I think I'm just keeping contact right now because I miss him, and I'm still holding on to the hope that one day he will realize that he made a mistake and want me back. (very sill I noe...but I just...I don't know...I think it's because I can be very stubborn sometimes, and I just don't want to see this "relationship" fail due to the fact that I invested so much time and effort into trying to make us work.
It's funny how during the relationship I'd do everything for him and really cherished what we had together and didn't really think about myself...and even now, after we've broken up I'm still so emotionally invested in him...I should take your advice and have some "me-time" and not let him bog me down...
Break ups stink! I just really miss my best friend... :(
I see that you mentioned that you had a similar situation where you had a relationship with a best friend as well...what happened with that, if you don't mind me asking? -And it's perfectly alright if you choose not to share :)
Thanks again for reading my post and offering advice Pinky!
- Old-Skool
I had the same thing happen to me...dated my best friend from HS for 5 years until she broke it off
Welcome to the board old-skool -
Sorry you are going through this.
:: think I'm just keeping contact right now because I miss him, and I'm still holding on to the hope that one day he will realize that he made a mistake and want me back.
Experience - personally and reading the boards - remaining in contact keeps hurting the person that has the most feelings and helps the other person them wean themselves off of you, instead of knowing and really feeling they have lost you for good.
Hey Old Skool!
To answer you about my own situation without making a novel out of it.