Best Sex EVER, can't let him go.....

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Registered: 12-14-2006
Best Sex EVER, can't let him go.....
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 3:21pm
K, I've been seeing this man for almost a year. From the beginning he was living with another woman, and had for about 6 years, but was steady unfaithful to her. At the time when we got together, things with he and her weren't good. This was my first black man, and the sex with him is the best I've EVER had, I'm 38 and have had more than my share of men, and have had sex with other black men since him...but, the sex is the best I've ever had in my life with him! His woman found out about he and I and he moved in with me for about a week, just to turn around and go back to her when she was ready to take him back. He loves HER, loves me too he says, but not like I love him. I've told him time and time again that he's no good for me, that I need to let go and move on, date other men and find someone who wants to put me first and love me, to be with me and someone who doesn't have to hide the fact that we are "together" when we are. Bottom line, yes...I've slept with a few men since this guy, and yes...they were black to, (I'm white), and I've lined up dates with men I think could be something good, but I can't LET GO of this man!! I love him, yet I hate how he can do me, and that I LET HIM, however...I can't for the life of myself let him go because I keep craving sex with him in the least...want him to love me and want me the way I want him, but in the end if it's just sex with him that I can have, I can't let him go because the sex between us is AMAZING, and I'm afraid that if I do start a new relationship with someone else....if the sex isn't as good, I'll keep going back to him just for that if nothing else!!?? UGH!!!!! I have dated a few guys with attempt to let him go, and find myself in tears because I wish it was him!! Excusing myself to the bathroom before they show to my date, I feel I'm doomed to destroy myself, because I love him the way I do and the sex is something I've never in my life had with anyone else. Divorced twice, over 50 sexual partners, 38 years old, and just feel stuck! What the heck, do I need counseling!???!??!?!!!

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Registered: 12-30-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 12:11pm
I feel your pain. Sex is really hard to get over because it is a drug and withdrawl is so hard. And when you are sleeping with someone your body releases hormones that make you feel good and this is often mistaken as love. Those hormones give you a great warm feeling and I'm not going to lie...they're awesome! I'm having that same problem with my last ex right now. The sex was so good that even though I was resenting him, I stuck with a relationship based on sex. Yeah, we cared about each other too, but not in the way we should have. We broke up 3 months ago and still I feel like I'm in withdrawl. Every day I have to fight to not call him for a little afternoon delight. I'm proud to say that I've gone this whole break-up and have not given into being a booty call. I hope you can be strong with me because if you do let him go it is going to be hard. 3 months and I'm still waiting for my 'time heals all wounds'.

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