I am also new to this site and if you read my posts you will see I have a very confusing situation as well. I know that being in the same boat as alot of others here might not make me feel better as much as it makes me realize that some guys are just sraight up cowards! Thats the word that pops into my head all the time. He is a coward. just because i love someone doesn't mean it will make a difference to that person. I am the ex that was dumped but he can't leave me alone. I have tried to let it go but he pops back up now and again crying his tears and telling me all the same sad stuff. I guess i am getting to the point, slowly, and thanks to advice from this site and from counselor, friends etc...that he does not have what it takes to be trusted. He wanted an ultimatum...I gave him one...it was too hard. I'm not worth the fight for him and it sounds like it might be the same with you. I'm NOT saying WE are not worth the fight but that we just arent worth it for a coward that can't stand up and be a real man and actually grow up and stop playing games. I'm sure he will tell you that you are important and that you matter but its an easy situation for these cowards to stay in. They aren't challenged and they can walk all over someone else. I don't want to be the one getting walked on anymore. It's still rough but I think tha advice I have gotten is really where its at. I can't let him in anymore. He won't change and he won't leave her so what else is there to think about for me? I hope you feel better and just try to check back and see what others say. Its a minute by minute day by day fight. I'm not there yet but I hope to be.
Take care and don't fall for his stories. He doesn't want to leave her. Mine doesnt want to leave his.....okay so i have to deal with it. It stinks that people can be so mean. i think that is what bugs me the most!!!
First of all, Happy Thanksgiving and second i'm pretty sure you have heard the saying 'mysery loves company' and that's exactly what your ex loves. So why would you want a man who prefers misery in life than you?
I too have been heartbroken and recovering from it, and just like you he too didn't care and out of the blue he broke my heart. But the past is the past and whats done is done and you can't go back to fix nor change it, but what you can do is learn from it. Although its only been days since your break-up you have to start thinking of yourself and only yourself because he is no longer part of your life, he never deserved you and you my darling deserve A LOT better! We all do!
Today is especially a great day to give thanks to everything and everyone we have in our lives. And be especially thankful that your ex is no longer part of your life.
I know its hard to say goodbye to someone whom you have loved or truly cared about, but everything happens for a reason, and I truly am starting to believe that. So if you really want my advice its very basic; take care of yourself and move on :)
I think if we reverse the roles and have it be an abusive man, who abuses his gf/wife and she leaves, but then goes back and leaves all her friends and family wondering why, you see a pattern.
Hello there,
I am also new to this site and if you read my posts you will see I have a very confusing situation as well. I know that being in the same boat as alot of others here might not make me feel better as much as it makes me realize that some guys are just sraight up cowards! Thats the word that pops into my head all the time. He is a coward. just because i love someone doesn't mean it will make a difference to that person. I am the ex that was dumped but he can't leave me alone. I have tried to let it go but he pops back up now and again crying his tears and telling me all the same sad stuff. I guess i am getting to the point, slowly, and thanks to advice from this site and from counselor, friends etc...that he does not have what it takes to be trusted. He wanted an ultimatum...I gave him one...it was too hard. I'm not worth the fight for him and it sounds like it might be the same with you. I'm NOT saying WE are not worth the fight but that we just arent worth it for a coward that can't stand up and be a real man and actually grow up and stop playing games. I'm sure he will tell you that you are important and that you matter but its an easy situation for these cowards to stay in. They aren't challenged and they can walk all over someone else. I don't want to be the one getting walked on anymore. It's still rough but I think tha advice I have gotten is really where its at. I can't let him in anymore. He won't change and he won't leave her so what else is there to think about for me? I hope you feel better and just try to check back and see what others say. Its a minute by minute day by day fight. I'm not there yet but I hope to be.
Take care and don't fall for his stories. He doesn't want to leave her. Mine doesnt want to leave his.....okay so i have to deal with it. It stinks that people can be so mean. i think that is what bugs me the most!!!
First of all, Happy Thanksgiving and second i'm pretty sure you have heard the saying 'mysery loves company' and that's exactly what your ex loves. So why would you want a man who prefers misery in life than you?
I too have been heartbroken and recovering from it, and just like you he too didn't care and out of the blue he broke my heart. But the past is the past and whats done is done and you can't go back to fix nor change it, but what you can do is learn from it. Although its only been days since your break-up you have to start thinking of yourself and only yourself because he is no longer part of your life, he never deserved you and you my darling deserve A LOT better! We all do!
Today is especially a great day to give thanks to everything and everyone we have in our lives. And be especially thankful that your ex is no longer part of your life.
I know its hard to say goodbye to someone whom you have loved or truly cared about, but everything happens for a reason, and I truly am starting to believe that. So if you really want my advice its very basic; take care of yourself and move on :)
Take Care.
FloridianChic
I think if we reverse the roles and have it be an abusive man, who abuses his gf/wife and she leaves, but then goes back and leaves all her friends and family wondering why, you see a pattern.
"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."
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Thank you all for your replies.