Bf-personals, break-up?
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Bf-personals, break-up?
| Wed, 01-19-2005 - 4:46pm |
I just found out that my bf of 3 1/2 years signed up on a personals website. I read his email (which is a big no-no) and figured out his login for the personals website. I found that he saved four girls to his "hot-list" on of those girls cuts our hair.
He said he went on there when we were fighting. He said it doesn't mean anything to him. He said he was "just dinking around".
I broke up with him. Did I do the right thing?

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I totally know where your coming from. I broke up with my girl friend in november and most of it started because I found an ad for her on my computer. I wasnt even lookng for it. I was going thru my internet history to find a website I was at the week b4 and I see an online dating site that had been visited many times. So I asked her is everything ok? She says yes I love you so much.
So anyway the next day I join the dating service to see her ad. It said she was looking for a true friend and is in a relationship. But one thing bothered me the most. It was the line that said maybe meet in person. Now I'm a very understanding person. But I did not feel comfortable with that at all.
So I asked her if that person was her. She completely lies to me. So I ask her again the next day. She lies again. So finally I gave her the proof and she says Yes its me.
Now she is pissed at me and says that she feels that I dont trust her and that I know she talks to ppl online all the time. I said yea chat rooms are one thing but trying to pick up single guys is another. Plus the fact that she lied to me.
Well anyway 2 weeks later I moved out. It totally ruined everything. And she acts like I'm the one who is wrong. Like If it was her and she found my ad it would have been ok?
Hell she found porn on my pc from when we werent even together and she questions me. I never got mad and made sure she was comfortable with my answer. Then I find out she was snooping thru my chats. Did i ever get mad. No.
But hell I dont need that. All I wanted was to know if there was a problem and if there is can we take care of it.
Oh well her loss..
dear Ikristin,
just like you i am 27 and i just broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago after a one year LDR since he thought that moving in together won't work out and i couldn't keep travelling to see him every month when he couldn't commit himself.
so just like you i feel i have to start my life all over again.i miss my ex a real lot and catch myself crying a few times for having lost him.but then i say to myself : why should i stop my life just coz of a guy who didn't value me as much as i thought.
you did the right thing by breaking up with this jerk who went out looking for other girls just coz u had a fight.how can u trust him ? what if u got married and he did the same thing....wouldn't it have been more difficult for you to leave him then ?
only time can heal the wound and slowly you will realise that you are starting to rebuild your life again and eventually finding a guy who really loves you and respects you!
should you need more help please let me know!
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