BIG mistake...

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Registered: 10-12-2004
BIG mistake...
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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 9:12am
so, last night, i was at a halloween party,

and i got a little tipsy...

and i ended up calling my ex.

i was talking to him for a couple of minutes,

and towards the end i said "oh i guess i'll

talk to you later, oh wait, i forgot, you don't

contact me outside of school, so i guess i'll

see you in school,huh?"

well, he hung up on me. and i called him back

a couple of times (i normally wouldn'tve called

back at ALL, but because i was drunk, i called

like 5 times), and i ended up leaving him a message

saying "hey, i'm drunk, why'd you hang up on me,

blah blah blah" (i don't remember the rest).

well, when i got home, i started to feel like a

jerk, so i called him again, and of course he didn't

answer, so i left him a message saying, "hey, it's me.

i'm kind of sobered up now, and i'm sorry that i

called you and was an ass. i guess i'll talk to you

later..."

it really sucks, cause i thought i had gotten to the point

where i'm over him, but i'm not. i care so much if he's

mad at me right now, and i want to call him right now and

talk it all out, but it's 8 oclock in the morning, and he'd

NEVER answer the phone if i called.

i have to see him in school all the time, because we have

three classes together, so no contact doesn't really work.

at school, we kind of talk, and talk about hanging out together,

but nothing ever comes of it.

i know i made a big mistake calling him when i was drunk,

and i know i made a total ass of myself.

what should i do? i want to confront him and work this out

so we can still be friends, but i know everyone is going to

say that "No contact" is the best idea. i've done that, and

it simply doesn't work, because of school.

agh, somebody PLEASE leave me advice!

thanks so much for all your love and support <3

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 10:19am
When you're forced to see someone because you have classes together the best thing to do is just stay away from them. I mean you don't really have to talk to him after class, do you? There's lots of other people in your class you don't talk to, right? I mean just because you're in class together doesn't mean you have to talk. You can acknowledge him and say a quick hi and keep moving on.

Don't beat yourself up for calling him when you were drunk. It's really no big deal. Just get over it, remember how awful you felt afterwards and promise yourself not to do it again. You can do this. You said yourself you were almost over him. And yes, you're right, no contact really is the way to go. I understand you can't do it because you have classes together, but again, that's no excuse to talk.

You can do this. You've come this far and you'll go farther. There's nothing to talk about. Maybe some day in a year or two you can be friends, but not right now. You're still too vulnerable.