Bitter ex or nice ex?

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Registered: 02-07-2007
Bitter ex or nice ex?
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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 1:36pm

Hi,


Ok, so my ex bf just broke up with me last week and so far, I think I've been pretty good at holding my head up high. I've tried to be as mature and as civil as possible-but IT'S JUST SO HARD!


I know he feels like scum on earth so he keeps calling me and emailing me to tell me about his life.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 2:25pm

Actually neither of your scenarios works for me.


You don't have to let him have it, he probably wouldn't care anyway and might even be condescending right back at you, if he's really as much of a jerk as you say he is.

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 9:27pm
Will you refresh again, Sandra, what silence says? I think I, at least, really need to hear it again.

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 02-07-2007
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 11:15pm

SILENCE IS GOLDEN! And it is very powerful. I just wish he would stay silent as well and stop emailing/calling me.


I went back to my apartment tonight to clear some stuff and to prepare for Monday moving day. I bawled my heart out. He texted my friend who I was staying with-that coming home to

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Registered: 10-03-2005
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 11:18pm
Really. Me too. I'm having an internal bitter ex vs. nice ex dialogue myself. I'm thinking that SOMETIME in the future, I might be mad at myself for not letting him know how much he hurt me...
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Registered: 02-07-2007
Thu, 01-17-2008 - 10:50am

Elanneh,


I'm so sorry to hear about your break up. Was it recent?


I know how you feel about wanting to let him know how much he has hurt you. In some small ridiculous way...I want my ex to hurt as much as he has hurt me. But, I know writing to him is not the answer.


Also, I have also come to the conclusion that writing to him about his shortcomings as a boyfriend wouldn't help me any. In fact, he may learn from it and treat his next gf better (and I would be even more bitter).


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My ex keeps emailing me and everytime he does, I keep thinking that he wants to subtly rekindle the connection that we have. I have been good and not emailed him back but I also have not told him to stop emailing me. I'm afraid that telling him

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 01-17-2008 - 12:44pm

Hi Nina and welcome to the board (if I forgot to welcome you before),


::My ex keeps emailing me and everytime he does, I keep thinking that he wants to subtly rekindle the connection that we have. I have been good and not emailed him back but I also have not told him to stop emailing me. I'm afraid that telling him