Blabbermouth -can he trust me again?

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Blabbermouth -can he trust me again?
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Sun, 05-21-2006 - 7:35pm
I committed the mortal sin of confiding in a "girlfriend" some personal/intimate details that happened between me & this new guy that I met at my gym. i normally don't deal with men from my gym, but we "hit it off" & things were good. This (so-called) "girlfriend" went to him & told him that I was telling everyone that we were a couple & in a relationship. WHICH WAS NEVER SAID.
He confronted me & I was honest & told him that I did discuss our intimate business. WHICH I KNOW WAS A MAJOR MISTAKE. He told me to never call him again & then he hung up on me. He still comes to the gym & I see him watching me while I work out.
I know his feelings are hurt, because he thought that he could trust me & I basically played "kiss & tell". I called him, trying to talk & make things right, but he didn't want to talk.
Every time I see him at the gym, my heart aches. Because I caused this tension between us. We used to laugh/joke & that made my workouts fun. Now, I work out alone & I catch him looking at me in the mirrors.
I was on the treadmill-walking w/a friend-NOT TALKING ABOUT HIM/SITUATION-and he was walking past us. She said he waved over in our direction. (we were the only 2 on the treadmills.)
I'm giving him space, but can this ever be fixed? We could've been something great!
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Registered: 05-21-2006
Sun, 05-21-2006 - 8:37pm
Trust is one of those things that is almost impossible to get back. Maybe you can give him some time to cool down and BEG for forgiveness later, but in my opinion, with the relationship being so new and not a lot of 'memories' and 'good times' to hang on to, there may not be enough to counterbalance the mistrust.
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 2:26pm

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As for your problem, I think that the other poster may be right, that the relationship may have been too new when this happened that there's not enough good to counterbalance the bad....

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 05-22-2006 - 8:24pm

HI there..... time is what this guy needs, but.... it might be worth a shot to leave him a note that simply says, "I didn't realize the depth of what I was experiencing when I was sharing my happiness about what we had, and I want to apologize because that was unfair to you and to us.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me  

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 2:15am
I've got to disagree with the other posters. This guy sounds like he's got major problems. What's the big deal about your telling your girlfriend that you're going out with him? Did he want to keep the two of you a secret? Since when do girlfriends NOT talk about the men they're dating? She's also got a problem. What's up with telling him what you told her? You're better off without the guy and the girlfriend.
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Registered: 05-18-2006
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 6:34am
amen, get a new gym and drop the girlfriend.