Blabbermouth -can he trust me again?
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Blabbermouth -can he trust me again?
| Sun, 05-21-2006 - 7:35pm |
I committed the mortal sin of confiding in a "girlfriend" some personal/intimate details that happened between me & this new guy that I met at my gym. i normally don't deal with men from my gym, but we "hit it off" & things were good. This (so-called) "girlfriend" went to him & told him that I was telling everyone that we were a couple & in a relationship. WHICH WAS NEVER SAID.
He confronted me & I was honest & told him that I did discuss our intimate business. WHICH I KNOW WAS A MAJOR MISTAKE. He told me to never call him again & then he hung up on me. He still comes to the gym & I see him watching me while I work out.
I know his feelings are hurt, because he thought that he could trust me & I basically played "kiss & tell". I called him, trying to talk & make things right, but he didn't want to talk.
Every time I see him at the gym, my heart aches. Because I caused this tension between us. We used to laugh/joke & that made my workouts fun. Now, I work out alone & I catch him looking at me in the mirrors.
I was on the treadmill-walking w/a friend-NOT TALKING ABOUT HIM/SITUATION-and he was walking past us. She said he waved over in our direction. (we were the only 2 on the treadmills.)
I'm giving him space, but can this ever be fixed? We could've been something great!
He confronted me & I was honest & told him that I did discuss our intimate business. WHICH I KNOW WAS A MAJOR MISTAKE. He told me to never call him again & then he hung up on me. He still comes to the gym & I see him watching me while I work out.
I know his feelings are hurt, because he thought that he could trust me & I basically played "kiss & tell". I called him, trying to talk & make things right, but he didn't want to talk.
Every time I see him at the gym, my heart aches. Because I caused this tension between us. We used to laugh/joke & that made my workouts fun. Now, I work out alone & I catch him looking at me in the mirrors.
I was on the treadmill-walking w/a friend-NOT TALKING ABOUT HIM/SITUATION-and he was walking past us. She said he waved over in our direction. (we were the only 2 on the treadmills.)
I'm giving him space, but can this ever be fixed? We could've been something great!

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As for your problem, I think that the other poster may be right, that the relationship may have been too new when this happened that there's not enough good to counterbalance the bad....
HI there..... time is what this guy needs, but.... it might be worth a shot to leave him a note that simply says, "I didn't realize the depth of what I was experiencing when I was sharing my happiness about what we had, and I want to apologize because that was unfair to you and to us.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me