Both in love and splitting up......
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| Sat, 01-07-2006 - 7:45pm |
Ok, have been seeing a man, long complicated story. He is from the US and gave up everything 2 years ago to move to the UK. He hates it here in all aspects, and is moving back to US first week of febuary, he will not be returning as he has everything to go back to over there. He has asked me to move with him, which i cannot do as i cannot practice my chosen profession on the US - and i have studied for 5 years full time!!!. The only reason he has to stay here is me. We have both agreed that love alone is not enough and one must feel fulfilled in all aspects of life. He too cannot work in the field that he wants to here as the UK does not recognise his qualification. It looks like we have reached an impass. This is not a case of if he loved you he would stay or vice versa. Sometimes life just does not work out like that. He won't talk about how he feels about leaving me as he says it hurts too much. This SUCKS. He is the first man i have been in love with. It has been very up and down but i know we had the potential to be amazing.
Sorry, just venting, This is really hard and i'm trying so hard to let go.

You must feel devastated!! When I read your post I was like that has to be so horrible to feel that you cannot be togethor because you would both be denying a piece of yourself by changing so much in your life. This must be so hard, because you are both at the career stage of your life and you are just starting out. If you were both at the let's start a family stage than it would be worth the career sacrifice for one of you. You have studied to hard...enjoy your career and who knows maybe you will be both led back to eachother again.
Hope you are well!
I don't know if you believe in destiny. But I find that keeping it in mind has helped me some (not a lot, but in those really down moments). If you both are meant to be, you will be. Life is very long you know, it will bring you together if that is what is supposed to happen. For now, if you have made a decision, then believe it to be the right one. It's okay to let something go, even if its for a long while. Who knows, your paths may cross again someday.
In the meantime, live your life to the fullest. Maybe when you started dating again (and you will...with time), you will realize that there is someone else out there for you.
I feel really sad at your situation, but keep courage and keep posting here.
Ash
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, you are right, that sucks.