braking up after 9 years

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2004
braking up after 9 years
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Sat, 11-13-2004 - 12:48pm
Hi,

I need some help. I do not know what to do since my partner wants to leave me and after 9 years of a relationship living together I do not think I can leave her. What can I do. This is too hard. I think I could never be without her. She is all my social contact for many years. I am constantly thinking that she tells me to find someone that loves me. I feel very lonely and do not think I can go through a break up like this. I wish this could be simpler and easier but it is too hard for me. I am obsessibly thinking that she will leave me and do not know what to do. It is so sad and do not think I can go through this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2004
Sat, 11-13-2004 - 2:09pm
i understnad exactly how you feel. A five and a half year relationship just ended for me, and every second of every day is pure misery.

You will find a way to get on with your life. you can do it.

consider going to counseling. its a good way to get out your feelings.

try to spend time with other people...from work or friends, or family.

it doesnt seem like it now, but things will get better over time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 11-13-2004 - 6:57pm
(((Hugs))) I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know you love her but do you really want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same? Do you really want to be in a one-sided relationship? If she wants to leave you, you don't have to agree with her decesion but you do have to learn to accept it. I know it hurts and I'm sure you're feeling pretty low right now, but in time it will pass....you'll start to feel better. You can try and work this out but don't be suprised if she isn't willing. If you do split...just try and stay busy and no contact can be VERY helpful and of course come here as often as you need to and we'll try our best to help. good luck and keep us posted!!











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