Break up with a best friend???
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| Wed, 05-02-2007 - 10:24am |
I've written on here before about my best friend/cousin and her BF. I've been there continuously for her even when it was at the expense of myself. Going through my own break up, I gave up a lot of my own time to help her and her rollercoaster ride that she's been on with her BF.
This last weekend I went to the races with her sister, who is also single, and who is a lot like me. My friend goes to the races every single week because he BF is a driver there, and she always rides with and sits with his family. I usually go and sit by them also. At the races this weekend, her sister and I started out over there with them, but when my best friend would hardly acknowledge us, we decided to move and sit somewhere else to "scope out the guys". I guess my best friend got all offended by this and became moody to both of us, but wouldn't let us know what her problem was.
Monday, I get on myspace (yes the dreaded myspace that I'm getting close to deleting). and She has moved me from her #2 friend to her #8 friend and taken her sister off completely and changed her headline to "How do you know who your real friends are?". I call her and ask her what she's doing that night because I wanted to talk. So monday night I drive 30 miles to her house and I ask her to tell me why she's so upset with me. She's upset with me over hanging out with her sister (like I can't have any other friends besides her, and for us moving seats at the races last weekend). Immature much? I tell her is wasn't malicious and that She's my best friend. I tell her that I don't get along with her BF's family because they try and control her (much like her BF). She says she doesn't think so. So I think everything is fine and dandy. Until I get on myspace this morning, and she still has not moved me and I haven't heard from her since Monday.
Seriously, I can't handle this right now. I sort of feel like my ex and I have broken up again, because we're not hanging out as much, and I could really use my best friend right now. But she's not here for me. I feel as though I've broken up with her also. Or she's broken up with me.
I guess I wanted to vent, and I could really use some advice on how to handle this situation.
Thanks in advance.
~Amber

Hi Amber!
PG and You have talked several times before, but here's a suggestion you've never heard.
If you don't like MY SPACE (or any other internet web site)...DON'T GO THERE!
It's foolish to set yourself up for 'heartbreak in advance!'
Forget about the fact that you've been relocated from #2 to the #8 position. You've got better things to do with your time than hang out with a person whose personality shifts like the direction of the wind!
Pianoguy
Hi Amber,
I think you have done everything you can do for your best friend. It may be time to let go for awhile. She's on a different path and you can't help her or save her.