Break Up Remedies ...

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Registered: 06-20-2003
Break Up Remedies ...
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 2:37pm

HI Everyone,


I just went through a very difficult break up Tuesday and I am wanting to hear from everybody their break up remedies other than eating junk food since the last thing I need to do right now is put on anymore pounds.

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Registered: 03-22-2005
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 3:08pm

What helped me through the first few weeks of my breakup was a strong network of family and friends and lots of pampering!! Every weekend I would pamper myself, I got a haircut, highlights, manicures and pedicures, facials, you name it. I usually don't do any of those things, so it was really nice. I'm running out of things to do, so I'm getting the dog groomed this weekend, haha! He could use some pampering, too!

I also try to talk and do things with friends after work and on the weekends. They've been very helpful and it keeps my mind off of the breakup.

Immediately after the breakup I made an appt. with a therapist. I've never been to therapy, but I knew that I was about to go through a really rough few months and needed all the help I could get. Plus, looking back at the relationship, I could see where I made mistakes and I want to make sure I don't make those mistakes again. Nothing major, just areas I know I can improve (like patience, communication, etc.) and it makes me feel better to talk about how I'm feeling with somebody who can shed some light on the situation other than my family and friends.

It hasn't been that long since my relationship ended, only about 6 weeks, but I can honestly say that I look better, feel better and though this is the toughest thing I've ever been through, I'm doing my best to improve myself.

Not to say the junk food doesn't help--I've probably had about 30 bowls of chocolate ice cream in the 6 weeks since we broke up, but then again exercise is another great way to improve yourself and what better way to guilt yourself into working out than junk food?

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 10:23pm
Staying busy has always helped me!!!
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 2:02am

the best remedy for a breakup is knowing that if the Gods meant for you to be together and stay together, then you would be together.

Breaking up is a perfect way to know that it wasn't mean to be.

Go with it and be thankful that you've been given the gift of knowing it wasn't meant to be with that person and that you are many steps closer to meeting the person you are meant to bet with.

Let it go and don't obsess about it...

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Registered: 04-08-2005
Sat, 04-16-2005 - 8:23pm

WOW! Thanks! I just broke it off with my WONDERFUL live in boyfriend. I just knew there were things I needed to work on and thing he needed to work on. I am in love with him, but truly believe we need this time and if we are meant to be together we will be. I am already hurting so bad and I am moving out tomorrow. Hearing you say this was great.

I know if it is Gods plan that we will be together. I know this time is needed so we can get ourselves together. If we do not end up together we will be amazing friends. However sometimes you have to walk away to make sure it is meant to be.