Break Up Worthy of Springer

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Registered: 04-14-2006
Break Up Worthy of Springer
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Thu, 11-29-2007 - 7:13am

Okay so my high school love and I reconnect after 22 years. Five weeks later he asks me to marry him. I say nope, more time is needed. We spend the long weekend together. Today I get a text reading

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 10:25am

Very Springer-worthy. I will never cease to be amazed :)

Anyway, one little thing jumped out at me: ....."We decide to reconnect and video tape it on my phone and then he sends it to said idiot.".....

At the risk of possible TOS violations (love those), what exactly was in the video you sent to the most recent ex?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 11:49am

Hi bosoxlady,


Ok, I don't even care what's in the phone video, I want to know:


::We decide to reconnect and video tape it on my phone and then he sends it to said idiot.


Did your friend have your permission to send it? If not, I'm not sure I'd stay friends with him either.


And my other question is, is one of the two (the friend and the idiot) the guy you refer to in any of these posts?:


The Right Words


Timing


Sort of Used Get out of Jail Free Card


He TRASHED me!!!!






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Registered: 04-14-2006
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 12:24pm
Something that is very out of character for me. It was pure
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Registered: 04-14-2006
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 12:31pm

He did have my permission to send it. Yes same guy, we are better as friends than in a relationship. But like I said, am giving up dating for a while, a LONG while. This one had me at jump and I will not allow anyone to EVER play me again.


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Registered: 09-13-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 4:05pm

As enticing as revenge is, I can never understand anyone who chooses to participate in such childishness. Yes, it is very Springer-worthy, but you wanted it to be so. I simply hope this doesn't come back to knock you on your keister in the end, as revenge often does. You left one guy to be with some other guy ( dubbed "the idiot")

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Registered: 06-21-2005
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 5:39pm
well said
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 11:27pm

I'm cringing for you, because I was hoping it wasn't what I thought it was. So, let me get this straight: You supposedly got "revenge" on the ex by sending him a video of you with some other guy? Something "out of character." I'm guessing the important people in your life could be shocked if they saw or knew? Good thing you trust the one you sent the video to enough to not post that all over the internet. You DO know that's a possibility you opened yourself up wide open for, right? Especially since you were so hell-bent on "getting back at him."

Remember, those who live by the sword, die by the sword.

I can't imagine how putting yourself at risk that way makes you feel better. What's done is done I guess, but in the future, I'd suggest you actually think about the ramifications and consequences of your actions before you go acting on every single impulse, especially those born out of anger, hurt, vengeance, or spite.

I think it's a very good idea for you to take a break from dating, you seem to be doing yourself more harm than good with it at the moment. I'm thinking much more than just a change in number is what's truly in order.

Good luck,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 1:23pm

As Sandra said, "I'd suggest you actually think about the ramifications and consequences of your actions before you go acting on every single impulse, especially those born out of anger, hurt, vengeance, or spite."